Hi I'm new and I’m at my wits end

I'm a single dad of 2 wonderful kids.

Last night I was coaching my son’s baseball practice and he was acting the goof making loud comments and acting really immature. Some of the other kids expressed a dislike for him...

This behavior surprised me. Normally when he is at home he is quite reserved and likes to keep to himself...

Since my first break up he went into a shell then afterwards I met someone and was engaged recently that relationship ended as well.

I'm just not sure what’s going on with him. For his sake I need him to act his age. I would hate for him to be not liked or accepted by his peers

Any advice you guys can offer would be greatly appreciated

I will say "boys will be boys". However, have you tried talking to your son about that behavior. You know, maybe letting him know that there is a time and a place for everything. Tell him how other people may have viewed his behavior, and how you viewed it. Let him know how it makes other people feel about him. He may just have had a burst of energy and needed a way to release it and that may have been the way. Especially if this isn't normal behavior for him, it may have just been a one time thing. I would just say to talk to him and let him know how it makes him look, or how it made you feel about it and how it made others feel about him.

Yea we went out last night had some pizza and talked about life and how to act.. I really do hope it was a one time thing.

Maybe just was in a mood? I do hope the talked helped you two out.

Hi Bishop! Welcome!

Maybe your son just is going through a phase testing out what is exceptable. Or sometimes boys seem to really want to be funny and impress all their friends and it goes wrong. I think the best thing is exactly what you did, by taking time to talk to him about how to act.

I hope taking him out and explaining to him helped..

What my fear is he is coping his younger sister. Who acts goofy and is very popular with her peers. I'm sorry to admit he doesn't have allot of friends. We have moved allot in the past.

I guess in the short of it I feel bad for him when I was his age I had a hard time fitting in and making friends and I see him heading down the same road...

first of all, welcome!

for me, without seeing the degree of behaviour and being able to compare it that of his peers - it is just hard for an outsider to measure. But it certainly sounds like you are taking the best approach!

too bad you weren't my ex's father who is constantly acting like a pre-pubescent boy :yes

Bishop

"I need him to act his age"....hmmm well not sure what he did that caused you to feel embarrased however here is my view on it. You can't protect him from everything...sometimes you need to let him fall and when he wants to get up then the father son coaching is more effective...sometimes when my son acts a certain way that causes some embarrassment I always ask myself this>..."is it for me, or for him?" Your fear of him not being liked...let him figure it out. I am a firm believer in letting others learn how to see themselves in a situation and learn from it. Sometimes the question is who are we protecting, us or the kids...while it is good to give your opinion on YOUR choices of behaviour to him, sometimes we need to look at what caused us to feel embarrassed. Was he embarrassed by his behaviour? He may also be testing his boundaries with his friends or peers to see how he can fit in and sometimes what we as parents think fits in, may not be what our teen boys think they should do to feel like they are accepted by peer members. It is an educational process, so instead of scowling him, use it as an educational approach of peer pressure.

Miranda