I am always so mad because I do not see anything positive about being a single parents( i do not mean to hurt anyone about that statement)my child father helps me sometimes but his help hurt like he do what he can when he want to.....I am trying to get through school but it is so hard I am trying to see the good but my thoughts of my situtions is hindring me from doing that I do know where to start to get my life back on track

Sadly, 99% of us are not single parents by choice. As to the good things, like knowing your child is well cared for and not in the hands of someone that may damage them is a good one. Sure its a strain on our lives, but it also tends to make us stronger people in the long run. I see it like this, not everyone can be a single parent, so its a badge of honor for me. When we have children it turns from what about us and goes to what about my child. I certainly would be well off if I didn't have to raise my girls, but I can't put a price on the love they have for me.

Hope I am not coming off too strong, I tend to be overly practical.

Welcome to the forum.

Lurch, that is such a sweet sentiment.



I also did not choose to be a single parent but would not have it any other way. I love my daughter and the love she has for me is indescribable. I cannot imagine life without her. Yes it is hard, as I am working, going to school and raising her solely on my own, no father involved in any aspect of our lives.

I have days where I feel hopeless, others where I feel worthless as a mother and then those that feel wonderful to be a mom and when I am happy that I made the choice to be one.

Things will always be alright eventually. We couldn't have the good without the bad.

You did'nt mention how long you've been a single parent but I know it can seem overwelming, especially at first. Things do get easier but there are`always going to be tough times to...hang in there. Your childs happiness and well being are great rewards and well worth all the bad days

I have been a single parent for two going on three months

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Originally posted by smshybug:
I have days where I feel hopeless, others where I feel worthless as a mother and then those that feel wonderful to be a mom and when I am happy that I made the choice to be one.

That sums it up perfectly!

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Originally posted by Lurch:
When we have children it turns from what about us and goes to what about my child.

and so does that!

It is deffinately not easy & I am sure, like Lurch said, it is not the way we would have chosen for ourselves. If that is your situation (again like many of us here) you have so much to deal with...being a parent, parenting alone, the feelings you have about your ex & the loss of what you thought your life was supposed to be! It is the most difficult journey you will ever go through...but it is also the most rewarding & wonderful experience!! I know you are at a point where you maybe can't see that right now & but coming here is a fantastic way to get through the rough spots! Take it from people who have been there...no matter how impossible it seems right now, there is DEFFINATELY peace on the other side!!
Check ou the Post from "Knight in The Making"
under domestic violence from April 7th titled
"Surviving...on your way to...thriving" He puts it in such a great way!!
Hang in there & always know you have people here that "get it"!!!