Hi you guys, I am new to this site, and i have had experience helping others with domestic violence, and also dealing with them in my own life. Currently i am a mom to be, and with that comes fears,tears, and joy, all due to being single. The father didn't really care that i was pregnant, and also our relationship seemed to be only fighting all of the time. IT's ok i think that this is making me a stronger person. It's a blesssing to be by yourself because you dont have domestics by yourself. I wish though that i had a male partner to talk to about the fears of a first time pregnancy. it would be nice. I will share that due to domestic violences with a military person a couple of years ago, i ended up losing a baby boy. I was devistated. Now i find being by myself because of that a blessing so i dont have to risk any "psychoness" and i can concentrate on my baby. I hope that i can reach out to anyone who has fears of their own or just need somone to talk to. Love to all of you.

Question:
Can domestic violence affect your kids?

Choices:
yes it can, i've seen kids that the first thing that will come out of their mouth is "are you going to take my daddy to jail?" That stays with them forever
Never fight in front of your children, and if it gets really bad leave! Your children are to be protected not live in the line of fire.

 

Welcome to the site 1sttimemom

I think that you are going to like it here very much. You will find thst many of us here (including single dads) will have situations similar to yours.

I myself am a survivor of domestic violence and am also glad that I don't have to deal with the "psyconess" anymore. My children saw me beaten and for that I will never forgive myself. It is no way to live.

I saw my mother beaten...as a result I grew up attracting the same type of men...until I sought counselling, healed and now have complete confidence to never attract that kind of man into my life again. I hope you will too.

Hi guys, thanks for the kind words, i am not glad that you all had gone through domestic violence, but i am happy to hear from the survivors. It is the most indescribable, ugliest feeling in the world. I have some pretty bad stories about my experiences, i mean one of my relationships even was so bad that he killed my kitten by stepping on it. I was so torn and wanted to just die with my kitten at the time that i ended up going to the hospital. I hated him and always will for that matter. That was several years ago. I will try the counseling i think that it would be good to have. Now that i am expecting in July I will definately keep "men" like that out of my life. I will promise to protect my baby, and not have her see that, and if one day i stumble across a man that is good at hiding his anger and just one day go off on me, i will leave him. I will no longer put up with that. I grew up with my daddy always telling me, "never depend on a man to support you."