Im going through abit of a scary time at the moment, my boys dad is not taking our split up very well , he keeps sending nasty text mess on my cellphne, iv just about had enough so im on a hmeswap to move i cant sleep at night i have nightmares and iv never smoked so much in all my life im trying to take every day as it cmes. Sorry hi to all here im new to this site xx

Hi Candyflow
Welcome to the Site!
Sorry to hear about your boys dad and remember to document everything. Not sure how the law works over there, but here documentation is important. Good luck on the home swap.

Gabriel's Mom

Welcome to the site.

I hope things calm down soon for you.

Have you a lawyer yet? Talked to a help agency? Sometimes they can get you in touch with the right people that can help intervenIt iss a difficult time. Try to do what you can to ensure you and your boys are safe.

Make sure and keep ahold of those text's also, you may need them to show to the authorities. Please be safe.

Candyflow,
If he has been abusive, you may want to consider calling a woman's hotline to talk about what is going on. This will aid police officers and courts because they keep this on file. Of course it is confidential but you will have an official record to help you document these things. If you can copy those text messages and log them wiht the police so they can keep track of them, if that is the route you would like to take. If your too scared to do that, I would seriously consider the women's hotline...now unfortunately I don't know numbers in your area, but they should be in the phone book or an easier way would be to call the information line at the police station and they have enourmous resources of numbers to call that can give you great advice for your particular situation.

If you can contact a Women's Shelter, please do. They will help even if the abuse has never been physical. Emotional and Verbal abuse will qualify you for their aid. And the fact that your ex is harassing you right now probably needs to be discussed.

If you can go somewhere and call the police, I would do that. Ask them what constitutes harrassment, stalking, and threatening. Get definitions so you know when he's crossed the line. And then as soon as he steps over that line, get the police involved.

As has been said already, take really good notes. I have done this, and it's been my saving grace. Writing this stuff down can also be an excellent way to deal with anxiety and lack of control. I felt that at least someone was going to address the many ways I had been violated. The mountain of things that had been done to me had value, and I would be justified.

I've had trouble in the past with nasty messages being sent. Unless they are actually threatening, theres not a lot that the law can do. Certainly, keep a note of them. Some phone providers in the UK can store them for you so that you dont have to clog up your inbox with them stopping other messages getting through. If they store them on their server, this will ensure that should things get really bad, the police will be able to take action as the evidence is there.

At the moment, keep a little notebook and record the messages yourself, just so you have a copy of all of them, in chronological order. Note dates and time too.

If you want to, the police can act on a harrassment charge just now. Give your ex a warning. As its a domestic, there's not a lot more they can do, however he is breaching most phone providers electronic communication policies, so they CAN do something about that.

Good Luck, and chin up!