Posted 02 November 2006 08:25 PM Hide Post
I was in an abusive relationship for 17 years my ex used to call me names like fat cow stupid bitch ect...and I hated myself to a point that I wouldn't even undress in front of him cause I was embarrased about the way I looked. Although I wasn't realy fat at all I felt huge and ugly. I always thought that if I left him no one else would even look at me. So much pain he has caused me I don't know if I'll ever get over it completly. I also have alot of anger inside me that sometimes I feel like i'm going to explode. My ex abused me in every way imaginable. And the final thing that made me leave my ex for good was when my then 16 year old daughter told me that my ex her biological father had been sexualy abusing her.At that point my whole life as I knew it fell apart and I just wanted to lay down and die. That very next day I left with my three children and went to a shelter. My ex was later charged with sexual abuse and sexual interference this happened in 2004 and were still waiting to go to trial which only in 2007. Since then things have gotten a little better for me and the kids but it's still a struggle sometimes. My daughter went through hell and back she spent a lot of time in and out of the hospital cause she was having trouble coping with everything that was going on and I wasn't much help at the time cause I was going through my own hell I'm just glade now that he's out of our lives now and forever and that he can't hurt us anymore. As for people's comments about why we don't leave our abusers earlier those people are just ignorant and they don't understand what it's like when your in an abusive relationship.

Hi. I am new here and am in the same situation as you except the abuse happened to me with my son in the house. it is complecated but he is awaiting trial. Why did i agree to go there that nice. i am too trusting and to nice........