Im a mother of two boys, 4 & 5. me & my ex have been split up for 3 yrs. we have joint custidy, but he has not had them for nomore than 2 weeks all together, im glad he doesnt because he has a bad drug habbit. i tried to tell them that in court, but they would not do a drug test on him. last yr his sister finally had him put in rehab, they done a drug test & it showed u cocane.i had to go sighn up for assistance in getting assistance in getting grocerys last week, i had to sighn something trying to get him for child support. im afraid hes gonna start getting them so he doesnt have to pay. i dont want his money, i just want him to stay away, i have no money for a lawyer. im barely paying my bills. im trying so hard but it seems like the more i do, the more i fall. my son started crying today about his dad never spending time with him, what do i tell a 5 yr old?????? whats should or can i do about all this?? anybody know?