Hi my name is Alli Im new to this forum and I need some sound advice on a problem Im having atm.. Firstly a brief explaination:

My daughters Father left when she was 2 months old he moved overseas and has only been back twice in four years since he left. He doesn't keep reglular or if any contact with us. And each time he has come to Australia to visit I have had to go to him. Well he has just recently come back for a 3 week holiday and wants to see our daughter the only problem is that he wants to pick her up from my home in Geraldton and take her to Perth for a few days with him. This is 500km from me and she doesn't know him. I have suggested that he come to us as it would be best for her. He has started an all out arguement saying that I am being selfish and unflexible and that he has the right to take her. But he's never shown any real interest and Im not willing to let him take her away simply because he is a stranger to her through no fault of his own. Please has anyone got any advice for me on how to handle this situation and I am at my wits end.

Thanks Alli74

He has only seen her twice in four years and thinks you are being selfish

I wouldn't turn my child over for that kind of visit.
You suggested he visit there. He can invest the time to visit her at your home and then perhaps out for the day etc. I think he doesn't appreciate that this is a person. A child not a pet. He wants to come take her away from her comfort, secure ground, be the care giver for a couple of days then what? Disappear for a couple years?
How is that in her best interest?

It's not being selfish and inflexible to consider how this will effect your daughter. It is looking out for her best interest.

I would certainly encourage him investing time getting to know his child, but in a reasonable way.
just my opinion.
good luck.

Thanks for your reply I agree Im not being selfish and you are totally right he needs to get to know her and not treat her like a pet. He unfortunately is the selfish one he always makes everything about him but I have just told him that he isn't all that and that he should consider other people especially his daughter before himself. Im not going to give in to his demands he wants to see her then he comes to her not the other way around

Thanks
Alli74

Does he give you child support?If I were you I wouldnt give him time alone with your child if he wants to see her it should be with you present she doesent know him.To her he is a stranger would you give her to the supermarket clerk no so forget it buddy he wants to be a father he needs to work at it.It is his fault hes a stranger

He does give child support but not what he should be giving me Im taking that matter further aswell. I've stood my ground with him and he is coming up to see her and I will be present the entire time there is no way he is taking her on his own. Thanks for your replies its nice to know that there is support out there. I will return the favour if I can.