So I have my court date for may 28th. the father and i still can't come to an agreement. i know who my judge is going to be i was wondering if anyone knew of a site where where you can check out how a judge has ruled in prievious cases????

You might try your county's website to see how much they provide as public information. Otherwise you should also be able to go directly to the court house since this stuff is public information and view their records. Heck I've gone to the court house before and had them pull files on some of my daughter's mom's "acquaintances" to find out more details about their cases.
I had a different ex get back in touch with me by viewing my custody case records online.

thanks i just don't like to be suprised and like to research things before it happens. i know whats going to happen this time when we go becuase now in illinois it is manditory that everyone go through at least 3 hours of mediation so since we can't come to a conclusion about anytihng that is what we are going to have to do but i highly doubt mediation will work for us becuase he is a selfish jerk. I have tried i don't know how many times to get him to agree to some things but everytime we start to he comes back a couple days later and says oh i need to change this and this. like we had our weekends set up(even thought he cancelled most of them) but now he wants to switch the weekends. i said fine just becuase to me its just a weekend it doesn't matter which ones as long as i get to see him too. well then we started talking about holidays. we decided for memorial day and labor day and holidays like thatwe would just do whoevers weekend it was. we decided he would get new years eve on even years and i would get new years eve odd years and then the oppisite for new years day. then decided the 4th of july we would alternate years me even him odd. we also decided to alternate thanksgving every year him getting him even years and me odd. then came x-mas and all **** broke out. i pretty much went with everything he had said just becuase i knew by a judge it would be considered fair even though i think he doesn't deserve anything. for x-mas i suggested even years he would get our son till 7:00pm on x-mas eve since he gets thanks giving and then i get x-mas day and his weekend starts the the 26th. well he refuses says he wants him x-mas morning too. i refuse becuase he gets thanksgiving its only fair. and he gets him the day after too for his weekend. i give and give and give and he can't work with me on anything and becuase i wouldn't change my mind he says to me oh well i am not agreeing to anything then we will just see what the judge has to say. he makes me so made and i just want to scream at him but i won't becuase it will make me look bad. do you think what i was asking for is to much..... i mean i bend over backwards for him to make sure he sees his son and then i just get slapped in the face for it i don't know what else to do

A Judge will see through his bull eventually. It sucks that people can't see it first thing. Not to burst your bubble or anything but judges in family cases tend to look at each case differently and I dont know how things get done in Illinois but there are guidelines that have to be followed in Michigan, factors that are considered in every case. If you have written documentation that you are trying to work things out and the ex is being difficult then the judge may look at that and see that he is being unreasonable.

I wish you luck when you go.