My 5 year old daughter came home from her fathers house and told me that (because she didn't want to go with him)I never even wanted her when she was born, I don't think thats something to say to a five year old, would this be considered emotional abuse??

Yes, that's considered emotional abuse. Why? because I think that would affect her feelings and emotions. I am thinking how the poor darling felt after she heard those Unaffectionate words. Words are powerful, negative ones scars us. Positive ones don't.

That's probably considered verbal abuse as well.

Your daughter's father told your daughter that you didn't want her when she was born?

That's a horrible thing to say to a child. I'd be reluctant to allow my child to spend time in that environment.

That is terrible...document everything as she says it with time and date...one more statement like that and id get emergency visitation hearing because it is actually parental alienation which is very frowned upon if you could get it documented by a counselor that would be best to ensure they even listen to what you are saying....alot of issues that are important get ignored in a court proceeding because the judges want to stay on subject and if you dont use your words just right they are apt to disregard it.a counselor can also help the kid deal with these terrible thoughts he has put in your childs head....good luck

While I agree that this is emotional abuse.
And it is wrong.
It easyer for a woman to go into court and say that, than a man.

I am having to deal with this very thing now, so I do know alittle bit of what I'm talking about.

Dawg

Wow, that sure can be damaging to a child's self esteem and self worth.

Totally wrong to say that...

My ex to be was hotlined by my children's therapist for emotional abuse. He would talk to my oldest and say things like, "You know your brother wouldn't get into so much trouble if you weren't such a f**king a**hole." He always told them they were fat and lazy. My daughter (the youngest) was pretty immune to this kind of language directed toward her. They were scared to be with him or say anything because he would cuss them out.

DFS workers and a policeman (never removing his "cool" sunglasses) came and talked to my boys. She stated that this was going to be one of the hardest interviews she has had...I even had tape recorded outbursts of rage from him. The next day, I receive a threatening message from him about this caseworker seeing him. Then she calls me and wants to talk to me about a few things. I told her that I would be glad to talk to her, but not without my lawyer. I knew that I had not done anything wrong, but I am a teacher, and that could ruin my career. She never needed anything else from me, NEVER called their therapist, and dismissed the case. I did ask her and the policeman, what emotional/mental abuse was if what I had proved by tape and what the boys had told them wouldn't be that. They could only tell me "calling them names".

Later I got another message, only this one on my answering machine so that the kids could hear it IF they played the message saying..."You are a F*cking Psycho B**ch just like the case worker said"! Wow, way to go MO DFS. Needless to say, I called and made them aware of the situation, and let them know that with people like her working on cases it is no wonder that we have missing children or child abuse/death in our system!

If it was physical, there would be "proof".

Shortly after this meeting, my oldest son was once again cussed at. HE was told that if he wanted to sleep (he laid down on the camper couch after a long, winding drive), he needed to get his *ss out and sleep on the ground. I picked him up. His "grandma" scolded him for telling a lie to me that his dad was cussing at him. When I picked him up, luckily(?) my youngest son was there. My ex refused to admit(of course yelling) that he cussed at him. He kept asking my youngest to back him up. My youngest had the biggest fear in his eyes, but he told the truth. Then, oh yeah, he did say that. But it was a misunderstanding

At that time, my oldest son was told, and I will never forget the words or the look on his face..."You are no longer welcome without a special invitation because I will not have you ruining my time with **** and ****". I have not forced him to go since.

But, hey in MO, that is not mental/emotional abuse