Recently I have began a custody battle with my ex. He has been verbally abusive to me, has an extensive criminal record and currently has a warrant out for his arrest. My record is spotless and I have a great job working with kids with DD and consider myself a "good citizen". I'm quessing he isn't going to show up for court, unless he wants to go to jail. But I have recently been told by my ex's other child's mom that his mom (who is CRAZY but can put on a good show) is planning on fighting me in court. She said she was going to pay all these guys to say I was the "lady" of the town and slept with half of the guys in town, and lie about who knows what else. What I want to know is if I can have it to where whe has no rights in the court room. I know grandparetns have no rights in my city i custody issues, but I am scared of what she is going to do. She has a lot of $ and would lie and do whatever she had to to get her son out of a jam. Has anyone else had this happen to them, with "witnesses" coming in that have been paid to lie about your "character"? I'm just nervous about what could go down and am just trying to prepare myself. Any advice would help.

i'm afraid i don't have anything for you, except my sympathy.

hopefully the courts will see her for what she is.

I don't think it is that easy to have people come and lie about something like that in court. I have the grandparents of my daughter lie about a lot of things like I disappeared with my daughter for 3 years and things like that but I can easily prove her wrong with birthday pictures with all of us, etc., but the judge just didn't believe her because they never made a police report of a missing child, anyways I could suggest you go and get some witnesses on your behalf, I'm sure you could find somebody that knows you as a mother and as a person.

mountain lady if you can get a copy of the warrent against x the judge knows that people are gonna lie but legal paperwork speaks for itself i would wonder about her police record too. Hang in there.......ray

And make sure you document EVERYTHING. Phone calls, emails, any exchange...
Start getting together anything you need to back up your own case. The truth will show itself.

Dont believe everything you read mountain lady who's real name is *name removed* smoked just as much as me did just as much coke as me and wronged a whole lot of people while we were together. I paid all the bills and all I expected was for her to make our home "home". She had no problem with me spending time with our daughter until I told her that it was completly over between us. Their are always two sides to every story...

Wow...an ex showing up...this is one helluva situation.

I'm not unhappy that you showed up, and there certainly are two sides to every story. Could you please respect a few of the boards rules, however? First, could you remove the profanity? They have a filter on here to try to keep things clean, but unfortunately it's not perfect.

Next, could you remove the references to your ex's real name? What do you think that is going to accomplish? It's not going to make us believe your side any more than hers; it's just going to make us believe that you lack judgement. Worst case, you're going to get get some Internet sickos trying to make contact with the person who has custody of your children.

Anyway...welcome to the site. But please...calm down a bit and remove the profanity and your ex's personal info. If you look at the bottom right side of your posts, you will find an edit button.

Thanks,
Bobby

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Originally posted by MIAMIROX:
Dont believe everything you read mountain lady who's real name is *name removed* smoked just as much as me did just as much coke as me and wronged a whole lot of people while we were together. I paid all the bills and all I expected was for her to make our home "home". She had no problem with me spending time with our daughter until I told her that it was completly over between us. Their are always two sides to every story...

I edited both your posts to conform to site policy. I also urge you to review site policies prior to posting again.
Thank you

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Originally posted by BigBobby:
Wow...an ex showing up...this is one helluva situation.

I'm not unhappy that you showed up, and there certainly are two sides to every story. Could you please respect a few of the boards rules, however? First, could you remove the profanity? They have a filter on here to try to keep things clean, but unfortunately it's not perfect.

Next, could you remove the references to your ex's real name? What do you think that is going to accomplish? It's not going to make us believe your side any more than hers; it's just going to make us believe that you lack judgement. Worst case, you're going to get get some Internet sickos trying to make contact with the person who has custody of your children.

Anyway...welcome to the site. But please...calm down a bit and remove the profanity and your ex's personal info. If you look at the bottom right side of your posts, you will find an edit button.

Thanks,
Bobby

Bobby, LOVE your response. You're made of awesome!
Tiffany

Mountainlady, even if you WERE doing drugs and were the town's 'lady' .. the past is the past. Your ex is not a part of your everyday life, and neither are his parents. The bottom line comes down to proof. If you have enough evidence that you've 'cleaned yourself up' and are leading a healthy and productive lifestyle for both you and your daughter, the courts can't hold everything else against you.. just as much as they can't hold your ex's past against him.

Both of you, stick with the present and document everything as much as you can. Start a daily diary. It will hold up in court if it's dated. Any messages via email/phone, record them and save them. Make sure your ex is aware the messages are being recorded if you happen to be talking with him/her on the phone or they won't be able to use it. Be proactive and smart. In the end, the liar will be seen.

I have been reading your posts with great interest and felt compelled to write.
Several points; you say that your ex has never paid a penny in child support, yet you lived with him for what I guess is over a year. You also say, that you never considered money in your relationship, yet you keep going back to the same topic, as a matter of fact, you almost reconsidered moving to your new place because of the settlement he received after his automobile accident.
On the grandparent rights issue; those are not "city issues" like you said, it is a state issue and yes, grandparents do have rights in your state. Your ex in-laws can and probably will prevail on visitation issues. Their son's record has nothing to do with them. I would start saving now for attorney's fees, the state will not pick those up.

Hey everyone I right this post with tears in my eyes... I am mountainladys ex and I just realized that I will never be able to see my daughter again unless I declare all out war on my ex.. I wont seek to destroy her so I fired my very expensive lawyer.. I hate it but I cant hurt someone I loved for so long to see my little girl..I will take on the loss and hurt myself.. I just have to be strong.

What state are you in?

As a victim of "grandparents rights" law in my state, yes it can happen.

1. Document everything
2. get whatever she says/does documented.
Document any visits she may have had
3. avoid letting her use anything against you,
so do not have any contact with her. Keep
your own nose "clean"
4. Document everything
5. You do need to work with your ex for the
sake of your child. The caveat is if he ever
threatened/harmed you or the child. Document
this. You both need to grow up a bit and be
civil towards eash other, no back-stabbing
either.
6. If your ex really has a criminal record, you
can obtain all documents from the court where
the papers are filed.