I just recently found out that I am pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been on and off again for the last 4 years. He is excited about this pregnancy and wants to get married and the whole nine. I love him but also an torn by some of the things he has done to me over the last year (lies, cheating). I want to believe that he has changed and can be the person he says he wants to be....but I just can not be certain. My question is...What happens if it does not work out with the baby's father and I want to move out of state to be closer to my family (siblings and parents all live out of state)? I do not think he would ever give his consent to let us leave.

i would make that move right now...if he is sincere he will go to or follow, legally it will be less hassle for you to move now...ray

Yep...I have to agree with Ray. Why would you set yourself up for a "what if" situation? You need to do what's going to be best for your baby. If the baby's Daddy cant see that you are doing that, then maybe he has even MORE changing to do before joinging yourself and his child.

Just my humble opinion.

Oh, and Welcome to the forum!

I have to tell you, my ex and I were "in process" of breaking up (whatever that means) When I had gotten pregnant. When I told him, he was excited, finally bought me a ring after 7 years, whole nine yards. I thought everything would be okay. 3 weeks before baby was due, he bailed. Still wants to be very involved with his son, but nothing to do with me. Just be aware, towards the very end, when reality sets in and baby is almost here, it will hit him like a ton of bricks and he will react - one of two ways. I say get close to your family now. I wish I had.

I Know some people are not going to agree with what I'm about to say but here it goes. I believe the right to parenthood should be equal for the mother and the father just as I believe in anything related to a relationship, 50/50 for everything. Where I'm going is that I think the man should have the same right at fatherhood as the mother at motherhood. When my ex told my she was pregnant with Stacy I was very excited, if she would've told me she wanted to have an abortion I would've had taken her to court, I wanted to be the father and that was that. Now, I knew that we didn't have a solid long lasting type of a relationship but I felt I had to give it a try, besides I wanted my daughter to have my last name, I knew that whatever happens with the mother she was always going to be part of my life. Now, I have no idea how your boyfriend feels but it could be that he is more into being a father than into you, if that's the case I think he deserves a chance at it, and most of all your kid deserves a chance at having a father in his/her life. May be I'm wrong, for what everybody tells my not every guy would've done what I'm doing, raising a little girl by my self without any family to lean on.
Also, I'm not talking about you personally, but for what I see every woman jumps at the first chance to collect child support, if this is what you are thinking I think it's only right that he gets a chance. I don't see it fair to make somebody responsible for payments without giving him the chance of the rewards, but, then again, if it was me I'd do everything within my power to stay close to my baby.
I know this was not what you asked, to answer your question I have to say I agree with everybody else, your are better off moving now, before the baby is borne, but, then again, you and your baby might be missing on a lot.