Hi there,
I am desperatly wanting to talk or just hear from any parents who have been through the hague convention. I have serched everywhere online for forums about anyone who has delt with this issue but have had no luck.

I will explain my story...
I was in an emotionaly abusive relationship for 2 years. The final straw for me was when my ex partner smashed me in the face. My son at the time was 7 months old. We were living in Australia, as the ex had family and support over there and i had no one.

I had always told him that there were 2 things i WOULD NOT TOLERATE.
A/ if he ever hit me and
B/ if he ever cheated on me.

I had always told him from day 1, that if he did either of these, then i would leave him, and take our son back to NZ where i was raised and had all the support in the world. He was well aware of this but still beat me senceless.

The night he hit me, i went to a relatives place and booked my tickets home for 6am the next morning.

It has now been 3 almost 4 months and now my ex is going to order us back to a country where i have no support, 2 family members, and no home or money.

I dont know what to do, as i really belive that he is going to try to get a parenting order in australia. I have one in NZ but i am under the impression that if he gets one there, then mine may become irrelivant, and not only will i be forced somewhere that i have nothing, but I will have to hand my only ray of sunshine over to that monster!

I would love to hear from absoulutly anyone who has delt with the hague convention, and especially to ANYONE who has been in a situation that could be similar to mine (meaning, you were the runner, not the one being run from), but never the less i would also like to hear from anyone who has been run away from.

This is such a heart breaking experioence and any support would mean the world to me and my son.

Thanks for taking the time to read this
Fighting_the_hague

I wish I could help you, I read your posting and I want to give you my support but I don't know how, I have been wanting to know more about just in case I end up in a different country than the mother of my daughter (she lives with me).
The problem that I see is that even though he hit you he is still the father and has the right to see and raise his son, and, very sadly in your case, the parent doing the move is always seen as the devil. I'm going to see If I can run some searches and help you out.
Good Luck
Adrian

Thank you for your support Adrian.

I totally agree with you, he does have the right to see his son, which i never wanted to take off him, but i think his rights to raise his son were taken off him when he hit me. He wasnt even a good father, he was constantly drunk and stonned and i dont want that kind of a person being a role model to my boy.

He has emotional and psycological issues, has no respect for woman, and believes that all women a just dogs.

I am definatly seen as the devil now, but at the start all of his family said that they support me. no suprises now that i have no support from any of them.

His father was exactly the same to his mother and this is a vicious cycle that i want to break.

Thank you for your support, it does mean alot!

Hi



OH, how I feel for you! Having been in an abusive relationship with my father's son too
(but luckily, out of our life now).

As I had to know about my rights too (he threatened to take his son abroad), I did a lot of research a.o. on the internet.

Here's a website that might have some info that you are looking for. Even tho it's for parents who'se child has been abducted (or fear of), it has a lot of legal info, and might give you some leads..........i.e. international network of lawyers and stuff about signatories to the Hague conventions etc.

www.reunite.org

good luck!

Oh good, I see there's a lawyer's office in NZ on the list............

Bizar.........they're not on the list anymore.........

if you send reunite an email I'm sure they can put you in touch with one.