This is a long story, so bear with me please!

Over the summer, my first born's father and I, Adam, seperated and started seeing other people. I was seeing a man who was 7 years older than me, Justin, and had two children; neither of which he had custody of.

At the end of the summer, my ex and I decided we would give it another shot and got back together. I attempted to sever all ties with Justin, until I found out that I was 9 weeks pregnant. I immediately informed Justin, who assured me that I would not have to worry about anything. I also informed Adam, who didn't take it very well but grew to accept it.

At first everything, was okay. Despite the fact that Justin and I were no longer seeing each other, he called me a couple of times a week to find out how I was doing. Then, the phone calls stopped. The last time I spoke with him was on September 9 of 2007.

After that date, things got bad. I guess Justin got back together with his ex and she didn't like the fact that I was pregnant with her boyfriend's child. And so it all began...

It started with the two of them filing police reports against me for supposed "harassment". There were a total of three police reports filed against me. I dealt with several police officers throughout this ordeal and each believed that the accusations against me were false. I was also asked to take a lie detector test to help prove my innocence. I agreed. They declined.

After they learned that they weren't going to get anywhere by filing police reports, Justin's girlfriend started coming up to where I work accusing me of harassing her from the company phone. My guess is, she was trying to get me fired but didn't succeed in that, either.

Then on one night, I received a voice mail from Justin's brother, Trevor, who basically threatened to kick me in the stomach. I immediately saved the voice mail and took it up to the police station. About a week later, I met with the law director who issued an order of protection and a warrant for Trevor's arrest. He was charged with aggrevated menacing and is not allowed any contact, direct or indirect, with me.

Since that incident, things have been pretty quiet. But last week, while Adam was working, he ran into Justin and a few words were exchanged. Justin basically told Adam that this was his child, he could do what he wanted with it, and that he was going to do whatever it took so that he could come around (we have a witness to this). Adam called the police and made a report of it.

With my due date approaching fast (May 5th), I'm getting very anxious about what's going to happen. Adam and I have discussed this many times and he says that this child is his, whether it's biological or not, and that he is going to raise her as his own.

I'm guessing that Justin is going to take me to court. And I'd like to know what my options are and what I should do to prepare myself for it. Any thoughts or suggstions will be greatly appreciated!

--Kristine

Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I would first say that it sounds like Adam is a good guy and I'm glad you have someone to support you during this. It is unfortunate that Justin and his gf are being idiots about this.

You do have documentation about harassment by Justin and his ex so you have that going for you. I would say you could probably go about your life and not have any contact with Justin and his ex, as it would seem you are trying that anyway.

I dont really know what advice to offer on this except that I would seek an attorney asap to find out what could happen and what your rights are, what Adam's rights are and what Justin's rights are. Justin's gf has no rights so I wouldn't worry about her too much.

I do wish you the best of luck and I Hope things work out for you and Adam.

Thanks. I really appreciate the advice!