As most of you are aware from my earlier postings that I was hauled to court on "violation of visitation" charges once the ex found out about the new bf. Well after 6 mnths of court visits, him with holding support and not wanting to keep my son out of spite we settled yesterday.....for the EXACT visitation that we have been following for the past two years AND when he hauled me to court. Six mnths later and 3 grand in the hole he snidely comments that "I must enjoy my time with my man". (He now will take my son every alternate week end). I am furious that he wasted my time as well as the court and not to mention my money...grrrr i could scream!!

How annoying! Yes, go find something to scream at. That is so wrong. And so totally our justice system. How could he do that to you, and put your son thru that. Your son must have been aware that something was going on. Wow. I'm so sorry, that is so wrong, so awful, annoying, frustrating. What a waste.

simple ladies, our ex's rarly think of anyone but themselves, its the "all about me, you guys are fixtures" mantality. Mines is mental, but other I have seen its pure self centeredness.

I am sorry you went through that hun, I know how you feel.

Because I went after more support from my ex, he decided he would try and hurt me the only way he could by trying to take my son from me. Well 8months later he is paying me a whole $30 more and our custody order is staying the same as it was before, and now he is complaining to me how he has had to pay out all this money for a lawyer and a childrens lawyer....like it is my fault. I just don't get it sometimes!

Next time you need to file a petition for court, specially an order of contempt, you can request in the part of the petition where you explain what you want done (Jail time, fines, PAY FOR YOUR LAWYER FEES, etc...). I have currently just done it because my EX's lawyer has used it against me in the past (Failed because the order of contempt was bogus, but still legal) and I am currently using it against her as I try to take custoyd from her in attempt to protect my youngest from child abuse. Remember that Family court doesn't give you a lawyer so you do have the right to attach legal fees as conpensation for winning. If you are on Welfare (Food stamps or something along the lines where the states has to help you), most likely you won't be forced to pay fines or if your EX is and you try, but do it anyways just because it makes a nice scare to them when their lawyer tries to drain you of your money on purpose with FALSE orders.