Hello - I know there was a post somewhat like this previous but I don't know how to go about or do anything with this so just thought I would try. My daughter is 3 and her father owes over 23,000 in child support. He has only paid once and that was to try to post pone them taking his liscence. He now has lost the ability to drive, get a pass port, any sort of loan, pretty much everything due to the large amount he owes in child support. However, he claims to be an "Independant Contractor", translation, he sells perfume in parking lots. So he gets paid in cash and claims to the courts he never makes anything, therefore I never get any child support. Hes been living out of the state for over a year now and lives in and out of hotel rooms, which post offices won't deliver mail to, so the county that originated the child support can't get the state he is now living in, involved because he doesn't have a steady address that mail can be delivered to. He never made my daughter a priority in his life and when he was living here, in MN, only saw her on his convience. So I want to try to and have him sign over his rights, which would also help him, being that he than wouldn't owe any child support. Is this something that is even a possibility?? Thanks!

Would you be able to find him to get him to sign?

Yes, but when I've asked him about it before, he states he doesn't want to. Thats what I'm wondering, is there a point to when the law can step in and say, hey sign over your rights cause you don't do anything anyway?
I don't get it, I mean if he owed 23,000 debt in some other form, car payments, insurance, credit card bills, ect....he would be searched down so fast, but its child support and nothing gets done. How do people live like that? Its not even the money that I care about, when I do talk to him, once every couple weeks, he never once, asks about my daughter. Doesn't even mention her name. Not how is she or anything. How can you not care about your child???

It is pretty sad how "they" don't seem to care isnt it?? If you figure it out will you let me know?? If I were you, I would contact an attorney, maybe your CS case worker or even Legal Aid (if your state has it). There has to be something that you can do....find out if you can do it by posting a Public Notice...

Your x sounds just like my 3 year old's father! Always moving from job to job under the table just so he does not have to pay support! Arizona made it so that the "deadbeats" have to do time if they don't help out....well, they put him in jail about a year ago for 2 months, would'nt ya know they realeased him and have not tried to make contact with him ever since...what was the point??? Sometimes I really don't know who the system is working for!! (sorry..i was ranting)

It's typically not so easy to have rights signed over. Unless he is a threat to the child, or someone is ready to step up and adopt it's usually not something the courts are going to go along with.

http://library.adoption.com/termination-of-parental-rig.../article/8574/1.html

http://www.nvo.com/beaulier/terminationofparentalrights/

http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/termMN.php

hope this helps, these are a few out of many on the issue. The last link sayz failure to provide support is grounds for termination.

when my sister in law married my brother she also wanted her daughters sperm donor to sign over so what they did is have it listed in the paper about having his right terminated then had to wait so many days for him to respond...he never did so my brother adopted her.