Here is my situation. I am a 19 year old single mother of a two month old. Throughout our 18 month relationship my husband was physicaly, mentaly, and emotionaly abusive. When our daughter was born, he got worse. He yelled at her whenever she cried. He wold attack me if she woke him up. Needless to say, I was under alot of stress. One night, i blacked out, because my blood pressure sky rocketed. I was in the hospital for a week. At that time, my husbands grandmother offered to babysit. Then when i got out of the hospital, she refused to return my daughter to me. My husband told my dr.'s i was violently depressed. And the doctor put me on several medicines. After 1 1/2, i informed my mother, who lived in another state of the situation. She came, and with the police, we pickeed up my daughter and left. I have a temporary restraining order, and have temporary custody. But my husband dosnt know exactly where I am, and he is seeking custody, to "punish me for leaving. what can i do??

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this.. I hope this post isn't too late. Do you have copies of the police reports/records concerning this abuse? Have you talked to any lawyers. It is important to know the laws of the state you have the restraining order in. If he has a history with the police, it is possible to demand supervised visitation. My ex tried the same threat. Fortunately, because of his record of abuse against me, there wasn't a court in the state that would let him have custody. I told him so. He took the hint and we haven't heard from him since. This might not be the case for you, but because of the increase in abuse the laws are constantly changing. Look into all your options. It is very important that you get counceling for yourself. There are many different places to get it. Usually social services can help, victims assistance, or maybe a church of some kind. I myself came out of a severely abusive relationship 5 1/2 years ago. I have a friend who is currently going through the same situation and is pregnant. She has another child and she hooked up with social services. They are helping her and have hooked her up with some counceling. Do some research though. Find out how the social services department works in your area (not all states are the same). All the best to you and your little one.

There should be an abuse shelter, and/or a victim service, sometimes they have probono attorneys.

Its a start, My heart goes out to you, I pray for you too.

Let me hear from you too. What you find out so that maybe you info could help another.

Thanks Jerymi, for sharing and my heart goes to you to.


Peace
Robin