I have a three month old with my ex he has no home, car any thing, i got custody with no visitation in our restraining order, he is contesting it now i have court monday and i'm scared that he will get my kid and steal him does the law look at all problems and situations with both of us?

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Originally posted by Greeneyeruca:
[qb]I have a three month old with my ex he has no home, car any thing, i got custody with no visitation in our restraining order, he is contesting it now i have court monday and i'm scared that he will get my kid and steal him does the law look at all problems and situations with both of us?[/qb]

Do you have to go to court on Monday, or are you going to a pre-court mediation session? If you already have an existing order, then you need to take a big breathe and RELAX! If he does manage to get the order changed, he would begin with supervised visits at first, you would not have to leave the baby alone with him. It is most important to present yourself as a stong person when you go to court or mediation, these people are making decisions for you based on one or two hours of knowing you, so sadly enough, the way you dress and the way you hold yourself will carry you a long way. Don't interrupt when he is talking, even if he interrupts you while you are talking. I learned that I didn't have to say much to get alot accomplished. My ex had only to open his mouth and he solved everything for me. The mediator took an immediate dislike to him, which helped me. Just explain your side of the story calmly and rationally, and always make sure everything you say is about your son and whats in his best interest, because thats all that truely matters. I hope this helps, I know that if I had known this going in, I would have been able to sleep the night before court instead of pacing and thinkng of what to say.