Ive been to tons of Lawyers and talked to legal aid a mediators and they all told me not to go to court for custody because it will cause more problems than it will solve,Is this true?

Hey Krock~ How are you doing?

Has he contacted you?

No he has not in over 2yrs Im moving on can I take away his parental rights?

I know in VT the courts will not let the custodial parent take away the other parents rights unless u r married and have that person go in and sign saying the will take responibility of the child or children. I tried using the fact that Shane's dad had not seen him in eight yrs and tried for abandoment but I couldn't. Like u I would love to pull rights from both fathers but unfortantly I don't see myself marrying anytime soon. LOL

Good luck on the issue thou.

SPIRIT

Married I cant even get a date,what if he gets married can he try the same thing?

Darn lawyers....they often bill you up the ying-yang and you don't get much in return. And, there are a lot of BAD attorneys out there.

As a general rule, it is my opinion that you should always attempt to mediate your issues and resolve them mutually, between the two of you. Be willing to give a little more than you think you ought to give in order to settle a matter.

This is often better because you save all those legal fees, time off work, and it prevents the environment from seeming so adversarial.

CAUTION: be careful about what you agree to though because it may have legal ramifications you are not aware of. I'd say a hour consultation with a good reputable family law attorney to review what you intend to do can go a long way.

Oh yeah, I'm an attorney.

Good luck!

I spent a LOT of money in legal fees during my divorce, and some issues that came up after - and no offense to the general legal proffession - but I will try to avoid paying out anything else, because - like you said, Ronn - I got very little in return. I think sometimes, both parties just don't agree and it can really rack up the hours!

Spirit, I'm shocked that after 7 years you can not get all parental rights, a divorce, etc etc .. because that is total abandonment. Can't you have him pronounced dead or something? *wink*.... okay, that's only in the movies.

Here in California, it's VERY difficult to try and gain full legal custody for young children. You might have to wait until the child(ren) is old enough to speak for his/herself.

Good luck.