Ok, I just have to vent. Maybe need some feed back. All along i have known my ex to be controlling and slightly abusive. My kids haven't seen him in a year because he chose to move 1000 miles away with out setting up a parenting plan. I am sure eventually he will be taking me to court. When he first moved i agreed he needed visitation with them but we could not agree on when or how to get them to see him. My kids have told me they don't want to go and used to cry when he still lived here and had to go see him. My son had anger issues he was doing poorly in school he couldn't make friends. The doctor of corse said adhd. Well, I took him to counceling. After i told my son that he would not have to go to see his dad this summer he started talking about the things his father has done. Like: hitting him with a belt force feeding him foods that he hates to eat until he throws up, then making him clean it up as if it was his fault. Making him sleep in a closet, making him stay outside all day (he lives in a desert). My son was only 4 and 5 years old when this happened. The step mom who i thought was the safe haven has put soap in my sons mouth. I know he is hard to handle and takes a lot of attention but the treatment he has recieved makes me outraged. Then my daughter while i was talking to her about her body is private and no one should touch her in a way that makes her feel bad, told me he has touched her on her privates twice. I called cps. Then i had to take her to the police station where a man interviewed her. She was scared and told him he touched her once outside her underware. So, of corse everything is unsubstantiated and the cops can't do anything. CPS is going to come over and have a woman talk to her and my son at home so they will be more comfortable. I am just so angry that he could do this. I am scared that i can't prove it and will have to send them eventually into this dangerous situation. I beleive my children and i really don't know what to do.

So sorry to hear that your children had to go thru this.

Try looking into this website:

http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/arizona-child-custody.html

It is good that you have contacted CPS regarding this situation, at least you have the ball rolling. THe counselor may also be able to bring more out of the children and help when this goes to court.

jddtbug,
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I am sorry to hear you and your children have had to endure this. No one deserves it at all. I understand completey where you are and I have found out things recently that make me cringe.

Yes, it is good you called CPS. Keep it rolling and make sure your kids are seeing a therapist that specializes in this area. We have been through 5 therapists and some were not good results at all.

My daughter's father is gone. He has been MIA for almost a year and she is happier on a daily basis. She does have some regrets because she does not have a father in her life but, refuses to attempt contact. I have offered to help if she really wanted to contact him. For selfish reasons I am elated he is gone. For my daughter's daily mental health I am happy too.

My daughter is much older than your children. I suggest you not let this rest. Keep taking action and take care of your children's mental health.

Thanks for your advice. I am working on it. we live in a small town and our counsilor isn't a children's therapist. We don't have one close by. So, I am continueing with him. Hopefully it will be fine.