Im a mother of two boys, 4 & 5. me & my ex have been split up for 3 yrs. we have joint custidy, but he has not had them for nomore than 2 weeks all together, im glad he doesnt because he has a bad drug habbit. i tried to tell them that in court, but they would not do a drug test on him. last yr his sister finally had him put in rehab, they done a drug test & it showed u cocane.i had to go sighn up for assistance in getting assistance in getting grocerys last week, i had to sighn something trying to get him for child support. im afraid hes gonna start getting them so he doesnt have to pay. i dont want his money, i just want him to stay away, i have no money for a lawyer. im barely paying my bills. im trying so hard but it seems like the more i do, the more i fall. my son started crying today about his dad never spending time with him, what do i tell a 5 yr old?????? whats should or can i do about all this?? anybody know?

what ever you do dont give him the kids unless you have paper work showing you have primary physical custody. once he finds out that they want you to file for support. he might get pissed keep the kids legally and take you to court.thats how penslyvania works. other then that you deserve the support whether you want it or not your kids deserve it too. if you can prove he was in rehab you have a good case. and dont tell the kids anything bad about him. even though I know you want to.just wait until they are older.