Hello all I'm so frustrated I'm not sure how to start this but I have a situation where I applied for child support back in 2006 and here we are 2008 and no progress. I contacted the state governor asking for assitance, finally someone from the office contacted me and we got into "final" terms. Both custodial (me) and noncustodial parents received paperwork with a bunch of info, but in which it stated that the noncustodial parent had 10 day to request a hearing the original document was sent on Feb 22, so 10 days from that would have been March 3rd. Anyways moving along yesterday March 13, I received a phone call by my sons father and he tells me he has someone on the phone who would like to speak to me. A gentlemen introduces himself as a supervisor for the child support office in kissime ans starts to discuss my case. Of course I told him why he was making a business call trough a person involve in a case cell phone? His responce: "Well, he was the one that call you!" so I said precisely why are you calling me trough his cell phone to discuss the case in this matter? When I filled the paperwork I specifically requested not to be involved with the father since we had a case of domestic violence and this gentleman decides to discuss the case on my exs cell phone! I dont know what the result of this is going to be, but I'm scare to say the least. How unethical was this? Not to mention one of his comments was: "well this whole thing is done wrong all wrong" and when I informed him that a lady assigned from the governor office to take care of the case was in contact with me.... his reply: "oh oh they dont even take care of your ccase anymore!" Help!! Not to mention that althought on a different subject I'm having issues with my kid because of a comment by his dad! Please help just to give you some insight, I decided for the first time ever to allow my son to spend the night with his father to go to a monster track show. When my son cameback he was extremely exited about the show, but if I had to correct his behavior he started to get really scared and asking if I was dissapointed, of course I explained to him right from wrong until one day poor thing just starts crying saying that I hate him! so I explained to him that he was the love of my life, my whole world and that no matter what I could never ever hate him. Xavier my son continue with this so I asked, honey is this something you saw on tv? did someone said anything to you? his reply: my daddy told me you hate me mom (sobbing crying) so once again I explain how much I love him and told him I would have a word with his dad, hoping he tells me no, which would mean that his dad did not make that comment, but instead he tells me go ahead mom thats what he told me that you hate me.
I'm not sure how to handle this, please please someone help me!!! I'm desperate

I really feel for your situation, I can't comment on the child support case because I don't know much about, but on the other subject I went through a similar experience with my daughter's grandparents and the judges response was "they don't spend enough time with your child to be a bad influence". I guess they spend so much time hearing people trashing people that they try to stay away, they just issue the order and, typically with police mentality they don't do anything until something went wrong and then we can't even say " I told you so".
You are going to have to keep telling your son over and over how much you love him and mean to you.
Good luck

My opinion, I would just stick with working it out with your son, assuring him that you do indeed love him. And from the sounds of it he probably doesn't really need much assurance to truly know that his dad was just being a jerk trying to say those things. If it wasn't for that you can't even talk with his dad about the child support stuff I'd say to discuss it with him but that's not the case.
As for the child support.....I have a very hard time believing that whoever was on the phone actually worked with the child support agency. I hope you got his name, and that you make some calls to check this out.

Hello, Thank you both for responding. Last friday I was contacted by the governors office and indeed the man that called is a supervisor for one of the child support offices, can you believe that? Anyhow the lady that contacted me seems very nice and dissapointed on how everything was handled. I have to speak to her again on tuesday to choose to either leave things as they are or to start the whole thing all over. I had some time to think about this so I'll be choosing to leave things as they are, that way we can all learn from the experience.
Thanks again for your responses.