Well, I'm not so fond of the child support/friend of the court system. I'll probably only get like $25/wk. I will Sh*t on that amount of money. (He's got 2 other children) We are fine with money. I'm going to school to get my nursing degree. And we have a nice apartment. Jonah has everything he needs. The only reason that I had to name him as the father was because we were on medicaid when jonah was born. Michigan wants their money back from him. I would have rather just went on with my life and not have to worry that he will get a lot of visitation and skew what Jonah thinks a man is supposed to be like. Phil (baby's father) has known about this baby since I first found out I was pregnant. At first, he was cool. But then I started to be "demanding" and wanted his time(silly me). What was I thinking wanting to spend time with the man whos baby I was having. So he did what any other piece of **** deadbeat would to when pressure is being put on to do what is right. He told me there were other women... lots of them... the whole time... that he was just using me... and I was using him for his genes. Well, he got rid of me fast, or I got rid of him, however you want to put it. Put it this way. He has only seen Jonah once. At the beginning of this month when he showed up at the hearing with his WIFE?!?!?! and requested a paternity test. If that didn't make me look like a homewrecker to the judge I don't know what. So a week later they called him and then I with the results (duh...) that the test didn't exclude him from being the father by 99.99%. He still hasn't called and I don't want him to. But he hasn't signed the affadavit of parentage yet either and he has been given the option to do that. I'm scared that he his going to now want back-parenting tome and want joint this and that. I'm using my tax return to hire a lawyer. I'm just really freaked out that this will turn out so bad and either Jonah will hate me for having to take him to his dad's or Jonah will end up just like his dad... 35 with three kids and three baby's mothers, treating women like ****, lying, etc. I was so happy that I was having a boy so I could counter that and raise a compassionate and respectful man. Now I'm just not sure that that is going to happen. I've heard horror stories of judges getting over-zealous about giving the father his rightful time, even if that father is obviously not a good person. And I know Phil. I know that if he does petition for parenting time, it won't be because he wants to be a good father, it will be out of spite, and all the other wrong reasons. I mean we are talking about a helpless baby. If he goes over there and is ignored, he can't tell me he is unhappy, and if I don't bring him, aren't I risking jail-time? Then what? So I pray.
I should add that Phil does have prior drug charges and he does have a feloneous assault charge from like 12 years ago, but I think the court can still access those records.