2 days ago i posted the frustrations with state help topic in this forum. I am a nervous wreck about that case worker. she kept insisting that my roommate was my boyfriend even though he's not. i felt she was pushing to get me to say something that isn't true. she said she was going to find out because she was looking into it and that she'd had a longtalk with my apartment manager (who swears she only said i lived there, my rent was x amount, and yeah i had a roommate.) she seriously said when she found out i was lying she'd take my kids away. shes crazy. i'm afraid to even be seen in public with the guy because i'm afraid everything will be misconstrued. what is her problem? her supervisor finally called me back today and said she hadn't called me sooner because the crazylady went home sick after my appointment and had yet to return. she also divulged that she'd written in my file that i was denied because i told her i was receiving $900 a month in gifts. WHAT???? i never said that! the supervisor also said that i had to go back to the same woman for a rescreening. she said she'd be there too. how comforting. i'm sure she'll divulge the facts to her supervisor. the supervisor refuses to let me see someone else. at this point i'm too freaked to go. i dont want to involve my kids in this. what should i do. if i dont keep the food stamps my kids wont eat. am i doing something wrong by getting them when i have a roommate that is NOT there father and who doesnt eat the food. he's never even here. i dont want to jeopardize my kids welfare. any advice? by the way at the initial appointment i told the person processing the request for food stamps that i had a roommate, that he paid his part of the bills, provided a letter from him and even offered up his salary and work info but the guy said he didnt need it!

If you ask me it's a bunch of b....ologna. It's pretty messed up that the supervisor won't allow a different worker to handle your case but whatever for now. First I think I would try the next appt. with the supervisor present and see how that goes. If that doesn't go well either maybe it'd be time to ask for the supervisor's supervisor.
I think the only way they could try to deny you food stamps is if they thought that your roomate was eating meals with you, be adamant that your roomate buys his own food, prepares his own meals, eats at different times than you do. Even have him keeping his food separate from yours in the cabinets. Otherwise it really is no business of theirs about him.

I totally agree with Don.

The fact that you have a room mate has nothing to do with your needs as a mother.

I am still so amazed that the system is so broken. I hate to sound cynical, but
it seems easier to get help - if you know how to cheat the system... You went in
there honest, and upfront about everything - and they are giving you a hard time.

Perhaps your room mate can write a statement?, and good idea about trying to keep
the groceries in different cabinets / and different shelves in the fridge. That
is always a good idea with room mates when you are not both pitching in for the
same groceries.

Good luck, I hope the supervisor helps you get what you need for the children!

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at this point i'm too freaked to go. i dont want to involve my kids in this.

You have to go if you need the help ... so think positive, hold your head up
high and don't let that mean lady scare you ... picture her in her underwear or
something and keep your cool. If she's trying to trip you up for some reason,
the best thing you can do is remain calm, keep your answers honest but brief,
and if she denies you ... go higher up the food chain!

Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss ... God Bless You.