We are supposed to share the winter school vacation, yet when I e-mailed freak boy to arrange that, he e-mails back and says he has "plans". I could have just kept her, but I am trying to play nice nice. It really irks me that this is time that cannot be replaced. We are seeing this therapist, and I told him that freak boy will continue to behave this way because no one ever holds him accountable.
I have no idea what my recourse could be. I could contempt him since this was in our agreement. Then I potentially start the whole court ball rolling again.
Maybe no one says anything because they want me to back off. "Let him to continue to do whatever he wants, and let him get away with it. Then she (me) will eventually give in and become complacent. This whole situation of mine perplexes me. I just can't understand what happened.
I was thinking this in the car the other day. I wish I had bigger fingers so I could go and pluck him good in the head. Plucks hurt pretty good. Ha ha

My XFH is trying to pull this stuff too. He only wants her for a couple hours on New Years instead of the scheduled time of all New Year's eve and day. Which means if I want to do something, I have to find a babysitter.

I have decided that I will tell him he picks her up at the scheduled time or he forfeits his visit. No negotations. I am not at his beck and call. I will not longer put up with it. You should try the same. Stop catering to him. If he wants visits and a relationship with his child, he has the visitation schedule and needs to abide by it or risk the fact he will not bond with his child.

We can not make them be adults. We can only stop allowing them to subject us to their childish ways.

Well of course you know that you could have him brought up on contempt charges. And really, that is about the only recourse other than keeping a journal and each time something like this happens keep track of it so that at least if you have to deal with the courts again you will have more ammunition to use against him.
I know that it hasn't been all that long since you've had to deal with the courts so I can understand not being so eager to go back through that.
Plus, it sounds like you had her with you when he informed you of his "plans"?....of course you could have kept her but no telling what would have transpired over that. In a perfect world an officer would have enforced the court order, but I think we all know how imperfect the world is sometimes.
Seems to never end doesn't it? Hang in there and keep up your journaling of all this. Even as strange as your case has gone all this time I still just have to believe that eventually he's going to have dug himself a hole that he can't talk his way out of.

My EH tries to do this all the time when my boys were little. He still does to some extent and claims to be innocent.

I'm about to take him to court again regarding the visitation and medical reimbursement and I'm not playing nice anymore. I've done such too long and I end up looking like a loser.

He sent the medical reimbursement through CS office and claimed it was child support so he could apply the same amount to both accounts. Now I'm submitting $10k in recipts for the last 10 years and he has no reciepts to verify he paid any medical expense. (he tells me he doesn't have the cash and he tells the CSE office he paid it)

So now, I don't feel sorry he's may have to loose the 2nd truck (one a 4 wheeling monster truck), pawn a few guns in his collection, can't afford the razor tip arrows for his hunting bow, or cut back on flying at the moment to meet another bimbo. Not my problem.

I guess I wouldn't be so aggitated if our teenager ate at his house 1/2 the time. The fact that he paid CS on the income base of $12k for 10 years should be my gift to him.

BTW.... I do have a friend who charges her EH babysitting fees to her to prevent her from taking the issue to court.

Her orders have specific drop off and pick up times and he forfiets if he is more than 1 hour late. That's where she charges him by the hour afterwards.

Also, she keeps a record since the less time the child spends with the NCP, the more CS she is suppose to get. Not sure of the details but I thought she had a pretty good lawyer.

I am just so frustrated with the system. I am still trying to figure out how, for the past 4 years that we've been doing the court thing, everyone saw what he was pulling. The lawyers, the mediators, the counselors. Then the last time we went, they are saying how much HE changed. I kept telling them, he has not! Now, I feel like telling them all, I told you so. You did this, so now YOU fix it. Yeah, that would go over like a fart in church.
My daugther, this past vacation week, has slept over his mothers house, his sisters house. When does he spend time with her? And why is it ok for her to go to those places, but G-d forbid she go to her moms house. Makes no sense. Just needed to vent.

I know exactly how you feel. My ex would be scheduled to get our son and then last minute, decide he had other plans. (He usually cancelled if he suspected I had plans!) So what I did, was arrange for a sitter as a back-up. When he would cancel, it wouldn't interfere with my plans. But the irritating thing is...HE IS NOT HELD REPSONSIBLE for any of his actions!!! He has not seen our son in 4 months due to a bench warrant for non-payment of support. (In over a year). When he did see him, I did all the driving and providing of clothes, etc. He got door-to-door service. I found it not even worth taking time from work to hold him in contempt...they can't find him anyway, even with the bench warrant. But I do keep everything recorded so I have it. They sure do know him and they're only opinion of him is that he's a blockhead. I've given up on any hopes that I would receive financial support or even some normal routine of visitation.