Well here goes. I am currently living with my parents. I have a part time job plus getting baby bonus and have pretty much been comfortable living off that for the last 17 months (thats how old my son is). My mother has just retired and has gone senile. She spends all day yelling at me,constantly picking me apart this is all right in front of him. He started hurting himself and i believe this has a direct connection. I realize i probably need to leave soon and i was planning on doing so n e ways considering im also 13 weeks pregnant and my parents aren't aware. The only thing i canthink of doing is applying for Ontario Works.(im from ontario canada) which I was booted off of because i refused to file for child support. I'm sorta backed into a corner here and need out fast!!!! does n e 1 know approximately how long the process will take??? and should i wait till the second baby is born b 4 filing 4 support if thats what i have to do??? can i live off of Ontario Works? I'm really nervous, i've heard ppl say it isn't enough???? LOST.....

what the heck... heard of abstinence?? Sounds like you got yourself in one heck of a corner. Why will you not file for child support? Your children have a right to that and it sounds like you really need it. Stop protecting the father and think of the kids and what you all need. Why should the Canadian Government take care of you when the babies father(s) should be doing that.?? Get real..

It takes about 3to 6 days for Ontario works for me and three kids I recieved about $800.00 half was child support from my ex.No it is not enough to live off of but you will recieve more cause you are pregnant .You are legally bound to go after the ex for support and they have workers that help go after child support.They will also pay to retrain you so that you can get a job.Good luck and go after the bum for child support hun you really have to or you will get nothing.

Kcmom hit the nail on the head.

Take responsibility for your conduct. Stop bringing children into the world and expecting the government to take care of them. You put your your little boy in this horrible situation and it is likely to cause long-term damage. You better do whatever you can (legally and ethically) to protect your son.

Contact a social worker about your mother and your current situation to get more information. Cooperate with Child Support Services!

I will pray for you.

NRM
Has your mom truly gone senile, or is that your take on it?

How old are you? is the second baby's father in the picture?

Why don't you want child support from the first baby's dad?

do you have a budget?
who watches your first baby while you work part time?

Moving out and living independently sounds great.
Have you worked out a needs budget?
How much is it going to cost you to live?
Rent, food, transportation, child care, phone, hydro, water, gas, diapers, medicine, clothing etc. There is so much to work out and account for.

I am a single mother of one 9year old. I have a prretty good income and can barely support our needs.

I really think you need to evaluate what these real costs will be.

good luck to you.

. He started hurting himself and i believe this has a direct connection. I realize i probably need to leave soon and i was planning on doing so n e ways considering im also 13 weeks pregnant and my parents aren't aware. The only thing i canthink of doing is applying for Ontario Works.(im from ontario canada) which I was booted off of because i refused to file for child support. I'm sorta backed into a corner here and need out fast!!!! does n e 1 know approximately how long the process will take??? and should i wait till the second baby is born b 4 filing 4 support if thats what i have to do??? can i live off of Ontario Works? I'm really nervous, i've heard ppl say it isn't enough???? LOST.....

I hope things work out, but you need to take responsibility for your actions. I am a single mother myself and have been for six years. My husband left us and went to go find himself and become a saved christian. But you have to realize you are all your children depend on. I used to be a cutter for many years starting prior to having my child but as things got worse in my life I continued. So I can sympathise with you on that. But you need to get help for your emotional issues. I recieved help and I learned how to start to handle life.

Birth control is a good way not to get pregnant. As a previous person said it is not the governments responsibility to take care of your children. But if you have to use it, use it. But don't live off of it. Get a job, stick with dear old mom until you have saved enough to live on your own. Set out a plan of action. YOur 3 month goal, 6 month goal, 1 year goal and so on. YOu need to take charge of your life.

If you are choosing to not get support from the father than that is your decision. I can't say anything about that becuase I don't recieve nor do I push for the support from my ex for my daughter. It is his responsiblity and I refuse to have to take my time to go after a suppossed adult, who has found himself in god to take care of his responsibility to my daugter.

YOu need to grow up fast, and take responsibility for your life.