Hello, here is my question:
While married to my ex, we raised our boys Christian and now he's getting remarried and his new wife is a Jehovah's Witness. He didn't tell me about this, but my son happend to mention to me that he attended service with them. I'm not against any religioius practices myself, however I prefer not to confuse my 6 and 7 yr old at this time. My ex and I have been divorced for a little over a year, but we were married 7 years. The boys were always raised to be proactive and to strongly believe in our precepts and the Holy Bible. I don't know what to do. Should I insist that he doesn't bring them to his services, or should I let them go with them.

Honestly, I don't think that you have the options of preventing or letting them take your son to their religious services. When the boys are in their care, they are in control over where they go as long as it isn't anyplace dangerous or illegal. It'd be difficult for you to convince a court that a religious service is dangerous.

That being said, I agree that it could be confusing to your sons. Insisting may be counterproductive, and just make your ex and his new wife more likely to bring the boys to the services out of spite. I think your best bet is to sway your ex with some calm and reasonable arguments - convince him that your only motivation is to look out for the interests of your children. Even then, you may not convince him and there's not much you can do but talk to your children and try to minimize the effect of your ex's choices on them.

I'm sorry that I don't have a better answer.

Bobby

Thanks Bobby. That actually makes a lot of sense. I'll try to talk "nicely", however I'm sceptical it'll work.

I agree with Bobby, religion is big reason why conflicts pop up and make a situation worse try to talk with him about it.When you two were together was he a Christian and was he befor you were together cause if so it seems like it's out of spite.Also with saying that if you don't mind me asking how is your relationship with him since you've split up.Because if it's respectable and on a mutual level then it shouldn't be a problem to talk about it good luck and best wishes.

I dont know that legalities of the situation. I do know this. Recently my daughter has been playing alot with the kids in the neighborhood. These kids come from a family with very different religious values than our own. The other kids tend to talk alot about their religious beliefs and tell my daughter "facts" she should believe in that I personally do not believe in. At the same time, I dont want her to go out there and tell other kids that what their parents are teaching them are wrong. This has been a little confusing for her and I wasnt sure what to do about it, but I decided that this is just a little slice of what really goes on in the world. We need to learn to respect others beliefs and to teach our kids that other people may think differently than we do and that's ok. I have basically told my daughter that those kids have different religious beliefs than our family and that they are not wrong, just different and that it is ok. If there is nothing that you can do about your son attending church with them, you can at least talk to him about what you believe when he is at home with you.