Hello All,

Here is my story. For the past six years I have been pushing the envelope -- making motions to reach a conclusion -- a separation agreement.

I am a single working mom with three sons. I am blessed to have a job that has enabled me to carry on living in the matirimonial home with my boys, ages 14,12,10. But, after six years of paying legal fees to try and try and try to bring this to a conclusion, I have not been able to reach a separation agreement. I just want to start my life on a clean page.

To me it is very clear that the children are not his priority. He has not seen them in four years. He is not paying the child support that the court had identified. A mere pittance of $260 / month for all three boys. He has essentially been in hiding for the last four years. He even complains that the government garnishes what ever they can - his income tax return, unemployment ... So, yes he has apparently been working but all that info is hidden, as is he.

It is likely that he thought that he would be able to walk out from this divorce (that he petitioned) with 50% of the value of the house. He has ignored that debts and liablilites that are against the matrimonial home. Yes, anyone would like that kind of a deal, but that is not reality debts and libilities that are against the house are clearly joint responsibilities.

I have been paying the monthly mortgage / line of credit payments for the past six years. I just hope and pray that after two failed attempts to meet with a mediator / arbitrator this will all come to an end.

How can he be so cruel, vindictive....> I believe that his game of playing the unemployed parent, while perhaps gaining money under the table for computer tech/ web type jobs came to an end. He thought that playing the dead beat dad would make us suffer. I truly believe that what he set in motion has come back at him.

As indicated earlier, once again a mediator and arbitrator has been agreed too. Please join me in hoping and praying that this process will enable a fair, equitable distribution of funds.

History has shown that he does not want to support his boys. Given that I have managed to maintain the matrimonial home solely, I hope / believe that the proceeds should be towards the children's lump sum payment. The expenses when they were little were small. As they grow and are involved in more sport activities, add to that the cost of teen clothes, and their general needs -- I will need that lump sum to provide for them over the next several years.

YOur feedback and support is most welcome.