Hi all, I'm new here and have some questions. Any help is greatly appreciated.
I'm about half-way through pregnancy, I made a few major mistakes and got pregnant shortly after beginning to date someone, we were together for maybe a month and a half total, maybe two. He's not the one for me, blah blah, and I have doubts as to his emotional stability, as well as financial stability. From this point forward he will not be involved in the pregnancy, my choice not his, and I have my reasons.
However, I fear he will fight for custody, most likely 50/50, when the baby is born. I doubt he would fight for sole. I want my baby to know his/her father, but I don't want it split 50/50.
Does anyone know, in ohio, what the courts are most likely to grant him?

Also, if I put him on the birth certificate, does he have to sign it? Or can I put him on without his signature?

Default is actually the mother if not married. If he shows an interest in the child, then it is shared parenting. The only way out of shared parenting is if they show no interest in it or there is a good reason why it would be harmful to the child.

I divorced and had to fight for full custody of my child. Luckily he was stupid enough to admit to the court that he uised drugs and his mistress lost custody of one of her children.

What about right after the baby is born? Infant-wise? I plan on breastfeeding, am worried about nipple confusion, though after 3-4 months the baby will have to take bottled pumped milk. I don't want the baby away for more than a few hours for the first few months, and I don't want the baby away overnight until its about a year or so. I want a routine established. Will any of this be taken into consideration or will he be given the baby half time or every-other weekend and one weeknight right away? I'm happy and willing to have him over a few times a week to see the baby, I don't want to keep them apart.
However, I'm worried that even if I allow him to see the baby whenever he wants he will want to take the baby and not have me there, etc.

I would keep my mouth shut.

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I would keep my mouth shut.

Adrian,

I surely hope you were refering to yourself and not telling the poster to keep her mouth shut.

I would write "I will keep my mouth shut." to clearly explain what you mean

He doesn't have to sign the birth certificate to have his name put on there, it still means though that if he denies paternity that it would still have to be proven by DNA test later on. That or he could just simply sign a statement accepting paternity at any later date during court proceedings for custody and/or support. I can't speak for what would most likely be granted for custody, that sort of decision would be based on so much more.....living arrangements, geography, parental willingness to allow reasonable visitation to the other, etc.