With my 2 I have to look at the whole picture,my son,now 16,mom threw him out and had him arrested (he threw and broke the phone)almost 2 years ago,8 months ago he was nearly killed in a car accident,he watched his best friend die.Pressures of school,friends and dad`s rules all add up to smart,foul mouth,rap&hiphop nobody tells me what to do,hate you dad.Can I deal with this,YES,I love and understand my son,and know the other loving careing and good side of him.
My daughter now 17,punk rocker,pierced lip(the x ok`d it)smart mouthed,argumentive,drives like one of the pettys,dresses like a bum and also hates me and my stupid rules.I can live with all this because deep down she has the same loving careing and good side her brother has and one thing he dosen`t yet,she has her goals firmly set.2 years at community college then off to lock haven uni.to major in phyc. and special ed.
Im greatful to have them in my life.

The best things you can give your kids are roots and wings

Thank goodness ~ I thought it was just my 12 year old who said that I was mean and so on. I just let him have his say ~ though he does chose his words carefully Then I just tell him ~ I will always love you and God gave you to me to take care of so that is what I am going to do. Just because I love you doesn't mean I like what you did or the choice you made. And if he does something really mean or says something mean, I tell him that I am not mad at him ~ what he said just hurts my heart because I love him so much. That seems to put a little damper in his temper and 90% of the time he apologizes to me ~ on his own.

I just hope I get this one right because I have two girls and another boy to go ~ YIKES!

Thanks for the insight

Quote Gramy36 " I don't think it goes away until the late 20's. My son (16) who is a full time father himself, Still can't watch his mouth. I told him he and Emma (his daughter) would be in time out together if he didn't chill out. "


Why??? 16 and a DAD??? WHY??? I wated untill I was 33 before I adopted my son... He's not mature enough to be a parent... And your not old enough to be a grandparent... OMHO... Sorry brutal as I am. I have the concerns of the CHILDREN at heart...

All pre-teens and teens go through this, they want to be adults already. I was hucked out of the house at 15 ( more or less, I was a welcome but un-wanted guest in the house ) I was arested for skipping school to much, I was sent to juvie... I had a bunch of run in's with the law ( nothing to serious, no felonies )... It's what you, yes YOU as a loving parent instills in them BEFORE this stage, that will keep their rebeling to words or light non-police involvment trouble...

When my girls tell me they "hate" me, I respond with, "then, I must be doing my job." I know they don't really mean it. They are teenagers trying to get their way!

I always tell my lovely son Cody when he says I hate you.... to mean I really love u mom that ur gettin onto me. lol And I will tell him awwww Cody u know u love me,,,,,and will tell him how much I love him.

I know a cpl times as a teen I told my mom I hated her....thot i was gonna be pickin my teeth up offf the floor. And 1 time I told my dad I hated him and he slapped me across the face....something I will never do to my kids.