Once upon a time I had a sweet little boy,the cutest little redhead ever,then everything changed.Now I have a 9 year old,almost 10,as I reminded of all the time.I don't know what happened but one day my sweet little boy that always minded and never backtalked has completely changed into a little smart mouth that argues about everything and is happy with nothing.IS THIS NORMAL?????? Please,someone tell me this is just a phase and he will grow out of it,soon.My mother tells me that he's just testing me to see what he can get away with.His father isn't around at all and he and I live with my mother.I thought he was a happy kid,we don't have alot but I've been accused of spoiling him and giving him to much.I don't date or go out I just work and then come home and we used to be so close.Now,nothing I do is right or enough.I say he's too young to ride his bike in the road,he says i mean and he hates me.this behavior just started recently,last few months,and just seems to be getting worse.Is this a boy thing or a phase,and if so how long is it going to last and how do you make it not hurt so much,it breaks my heart when he acts like this.He's a straight A student and a really good kid,normally.PLEASE HELP-----BEFORE I LOSE WHAT SANITY I HAVE LEFT. SORRY SO LONG

Congratulations and welcome to the beginning of puberty! My three boys went thru it, the youngest is 12. I think we are finally over it. Ill pray for u..you are gonna need it! lol

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Originally posted by momof5_2005:
[qb] Congratulations and welcome to the beginning of puberty! My three boys went thru it, the youngest is 12. I think we are finally over it. Ill pray for u..you are gonna need it! lol [/qb]

Your youngest is 12? My isn't even 10 yet.Surely you're not telling me I'll have 2 or more years of this.Any advice or escape plans you could share would be great.And congratulations to you too----you've went through this with three boys,what a woman,I have serious doubts I'll make it through it with just one.Thanks for your prayers,I have a feeling I'll need all I can get.

lol tells ya how well i handled it..It was 2 boys and a girl not 3 boys. lol
yea mine got smart mouth, grades dropped, he hated me...he is getting more respectful and brought home straight A's. I thought it was my divorce with my oldest boy that was causing it until the next one went thru it. I wanted to lock him in the closet. I didnt think I would make it either. They have that thing where they dont wanna be little boys in front of their friends, but they still dont wanna stop being the baby. I still have a 6 yo son, I am grateful I can rest a few years before he puts me through it.

Keep your faith, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I have a 16, almost 17 year old daughter, her she through the same thing and it seemed to last a lifetime, but thankfully enough we did get through it. I can just say, stand your ground, and don't let the his "I hate you and your mean" remarks get to you, I'm sure he doesn't mean them, but he will use them agaist you if he sees that it works to get what he wants. It was hard, but we got through it. She is now a very loving daughter and we have a great relationship.

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Originally posted by Meandmygirls:
[qb] Keep your faith, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I have a 16, almost 17 year old daughter, her she through the same thing and it seemed to last a lifetime, but thankfully enough we did get through it. I can just say, stand your ground, and don't let the his "I hate you and your mean" remarks get to you, I'm sure he doesn't mean them, but he will use them agaist you if he sees that it works to get what he wants. It was hard, but we got through it. She is now a very loving daughter and we have a great relationship. [/qb]

Thanks,it's nice to know I'm not the only one going through this.My mom says the same thing,"don't let what he says get to you",it's hard though.The one person that means the most to you in the whole world is standing there saying he hates you and you're a bad mother is like a knife through the heart.Hopefully this won't last long and my sweet little boy will return,it was so much easier when he was 2 or 3 and mommy was all they wanted,now my sons favorite words are "mom,stop","I'm not a baby".

I have the same out of my 7 year old.We argue over silly things.She is trying to play Mom to the younger ones.But I tell her I ultimatly control bed time and TV time and that usually works.

Hang in there,

Mark

OH, MY!!!! You mean it's gonna get worse? Mine came out of the womb w/a smart mouth. I have tried everything including washing it out w/soap (yes I did!), but it is still smart. It gets better for a while, and then it is right back to the way it was. I don't tolerate it at all, but he still seems to try to test me! I'll keep good thoughts for you because I know I'm going to be needing them soon! I hope it does get better! I've been told that kids like to test their limits and the key is to be consistant. I guess I'm still learning the ropes, though!

Yeah, it's gets worse. Both kids born w/ sarcasm running through their blood. Intelligent smart mouths, the worst kind. They actually know what they are talking about, even the 3yr old. W/ my son I tended to chalk it up to him not living w/me. But then, Morganne started talking & that was it. Oh well, at least they have manners to go a long with the smart mouths.
Good luck, we'll all be praying for you

by the way my son is 14yr

HELLO!!! Haven't you learned yet?? They know everything, and we are ignorant. C'mon Mom! hahaha

Do they ever, I just got off the phone w/ Morganne's dad and he told me, my darling little girl told her grandmother to leave her father a lone because he's not a little boy any more. And she think's she knows everything.

I don't think it goes away until the late 20's. My son (16) who is a full time father himself, Still can't watch his mouth. I told him he and Emma (his daughter) would be in time out together if he didn't chill out.

Get a swear jar. It works!!

Did any of you ever see that bumper sticker/poster
"Kids. Get move out now, while you still know everything." I even refer to it myself, if telling stories about my earlier years. "Yeah, that was when I knew everything."
I think it happens even earlier now.