Here's the deal. I joined this site for several reasons- mainly advice to meet others and have adult conversation other than my 5 year old girl, and to get some advice about her behavoir.

She is a very intellegent 5 year old girl, but has the worst attitude I have seen- and I work with children. So its pretty bad.

My daughter smarts off easily becomes angry easily even if I just tell her to pick up or feed the cat. Bath time is horrible She will avoid it or bargain with me -"just after I watch tv or finish whatever." She screams during all of it. I let her take her own showers or bathes then I go in there and finish her hair, or I read to her while she is in the tub but nothing works there.

I have tried all kinds of discipline:time outs, taking away of toys priviledges, sitting in a chair in middle of room, a good old fashion spanking which I hated myself afterwards, alot . Nothing seems to help.

It is not unusual for her to tell me she hates me, or she hates her life. Kicking and hitting me is typical behavoir for her. I even got the point I was going to send her to a behavoir conselor but my friends at work told me she might straigten out when school starts.

I am wondering if some of this stems from her not having a consistent relationship with her father. He takes his visitation whenever he decides, he never calls her and rarely returns her calls. Talking to him is out of the questin for many other reasons (that maybe later I can share iwth some of you.)

Please someone tell me their child exhibits some of this behavoir and my child is not all that bad. Thanks in advance

My son turning 6 on friday and he gets angry sometimes and gets his attitude also.
I have found taking him to a therapist has helped. I myself have no personal experience with divorce untill hise dad left us. So I am always worried about my kid's mental well-being.
I have also found that sometimes he will open up to someone other than me. I am ok with that.
Your dd sounds very angry over things and maybe confused because she doesn't know how to talk about it?

I have 4 teenagers and yes have spent many a year dealing with is.I would give councelling a try and yes school might help to.This behavior could also cause problems at school for her first year so I would look into councelling Take cARe and hugs Gail

It's funny because just when I get concerned about her behavoir we have a good night or two in a row. But she told me just tonight, "mom, you don;t discipline me enough like the babysitter." "i can't get away with anything over there" The babysitter which she has had since she has been a baby just does the time-out deal, but somehow she has better luck with it. My time out procedure with my duaghter results in me standing behind her making sure she stays in the corner and it becomes a game. She leaves the corner and I put her back it for atleast 15 mins, which seems like a hour. How smart is my 5 year old? when she tells me I need to discipline her more.!!!

Out of the mouths of babes. My oldest has always had this way of telling me "then just say 'no' mom", because I have a tendency to go into the reason why or lecture about why it would be an inconvenience and on and on. She's a teenager now and still tells me that now and then. It verifies to me that they do want those limits! Good luck! The big thing is consistency.