I recently talked to her pediatrician who in turn talked to a pediatric psychiatrist- who suggested starting her on Adderral. She has been in counseling with a psychologist for almost a year- due to her horrible temper tantrums, impulses, uncontrollable anger- anger over what I wish I knew.
Her psychologist we'll see tomorrow- is dead set against medicine- but her 1-2-3 magic and marble system and other behavioral things are not working. I am nervous about her reaction about doing this.

I haven't started the med yet because of insurance needing approval, etc.
One minute I am okay with doing this because I fear for her safety when she is out of control, she is going to hurt herself eventually, I have tried other things, and her pediatrician went thru all this trouble to research it and talk to other docotrs I feel like I need to give it a try.My plan is to do the med for one month and see if it helps, definitely take her off by May summer and see if with more counseling things improve and she is able to share her feelings better.

But, there are side effects, studies being done all the time showing how it could lead to addiction drug problems in the future, sudden cardiac death weight loss, suicidal thoughts, All that is scaring me. It seems like a big gamble -- a gamble with my daughter who needs help.

I wish I knew why she was so angry- why the past three days she has constantly screamed at me, spit in my face, kicked, had trouble sleeping. Nothing has changed recently- dad is still not contacting us the past month. I wish I knew what I have done to her to make her this way- all I have tried is my very best to protect her and help her but it has not helped at all.
I guess I just needed to vent- but I am willing to take suggestions or reassurance that starting her on medicine is right or wrong.

They say that temporary meds can help to get the behavior in check to let the therapy begin to take hold.

Adderol....thats a dangerous drug as they all are. I would perhaps find out about other options that don't have as addictive a history. I haven't researched meds yet b/c I refuse with my son.

Have you been through a really thorough behavioral analysis or just seen a pediatric psych and pediatrician?

I have been chekcing into getting her a detailed evaulation with behavoiral med but not of that is covered by insurance and I can not qualify for any state help due to my salary. That is a whole other issue adn oen I am upset with totally- I make alot of money salary wise but after leaving a marriage in debt and surviving paycheck to paycheck if only $200.00 to pay for everything else- what am I supposed to do? No one every looks at the circumstances a single parent leaves in- but just what they make per check. If you make over a certain amt- there is no help. I have checked for the last year on all that- but my duaghter needs help now - it cannot wait three years down the road when some of the debt is paid off- sorry -- I am just very frustrated.

A - can you file for bankruptcy? I don't know your marriage situation or what you can do but I'd say screw my credit to help my son with his behavioral situation as I'd imagine you'd do for your daughter. If you are still married then those debts would have to be filed on jointly and if she won't you should be able to shove them off on your ex partially.

Also...I don't understand how you don't qualify for state insurance as the income guidelines seem to cover everyone from what I found here: http://www.allkids.com/income.html

I have already considered filing bankruptcy, I did file an application for ALLKIds but because I have a primary insurance was told that I cannot apply for more help. My primary insurance does not have any mental health coverage for psych testing0 is waht I was told. I really don't know what to do- short of cutting off all extras- internet, tv, phone to help her but my job requires the internet access and phone.

From what I was reading if they don't cover a service AllKids is supposed to pick it up. Especially children with special needs. I think I would appeal!