I am really have a rough time getting my 3yr old daughter to listen...particularly in the morning routine. She is great at daycare all day and even decent at night. I have maybe one or two instances at night that there is a problem and time outs solve them.In the Morning when she gets up its a fight from the get go. We are up at 6am and don't even leave the house till 730 so time isn't the issue. She isn't rushed. I know she can listen because she is very good at it other times. She refuses to get dressed, or brush her hair, and I just end up getting upset and yelling which definatly doesn't help. Time outs don't seem to work in this situation, I've tried charts and talking to her and anything else I can think of. I am at my wits end by the time I get out of the house. Does anyone have any other suggestions?

LOL this make me think of my little cousin. She wasn't an easy child between the age of 2 to 3.

One morning, her Mum 'gave up', and took her to daycare 'as is', with her hair not brushed, and in her pyjamas.

It helped.

I think, the method could be called a bit extreme, but in the end, all you want to do, is make them understand the consequences.
What they can start understanding at this age, is that they are responsible, and they can control things, one way or the other.

Ex: you don't want to get dressed..OK, we are leaving now with you dressed just as you are.
You don't want to get your hair done...OK, you won't be as pretty today at school.

I never had to go that far, but I did threaten, and BOY, how quick he was dressing himself (on his own too !), once he understood I am serious.

I wish I can offer you advice but my 5 year old and I have the same problem every morning before school. She has a problem with acting out and not listening most of time with me but she is great at school. Her teacher suggested the marble technique- she has a bad jar and a good jar . the good jar is filled with marbles if she acts up (yells, says no, kciks hits,etc) a marble goes into the bad jar then she has to win it back. Until the bad jar is empty at the end of the week, she gets no rewards- no toy, no eatingout, no actviities, etc. I also take a bad marble out of the jar when she does somehting to help- feed the cat, eats dinner within a hour (usually it takes her two), helps wash dishes whatever. so far that is working for us.