You guys are all great. I think back too and laugh at how guilty I felt back then when I spanked T. Now, I still threaten it ...and she believes me LOL.

Oh, and she still uses band-aids for the dumbest injuries....I say "Aw....do you need surgery"? She just laughs and puts on the band-aid.

Looney911,
I say if it works don't feel bad. Just do whatever it is that you think is going to work for that child. Spankings don't give you any follow throughs either....in other words you don't have to have the punishment go on and on all week etc. just make sure that if you spank him for that crime than if/when that same crime gets committed again you spank him again. That way there is no confusion. When he does that crime the punishment is the same and he can count on it.

This is a subject that pretty much ended my last relationship. I had nothing against spankings until I actually had a child. I was never comfortable with it. For my ex there was no other way. Well I say if it works for you then fine use it, but if it doesn't or it really makes you feel bad you may want to try the voucher system. My son was, is, a very challenging child. Spanking just did not work and only made things worse with him. I have used this program with incredible success for several years and you can use it until they leave the nest. I cannot even begin to list the benefits and you see changes immediately. Now I can't say it will work for everyone but I had tried everything including therapy, and this has been the thing to get the best response. If you want more info PM me. It has also saved me a ton of money and grief in stores because they have to be good to earn their vouchers. I don't get the plz, plz, plz can I have a toy anymore.
Good Luck,
Heidi

Man...this forum is great...I feel like posting links to other forums where the spanking topic went bad...

Really...I've seen people get personal...people threaten to call child protective services...scary stuff...

Always good to see a civil conversation.

I agree Bobby, I've been in a few of those but what always amazed me was that generally the people who had the biggest mouths were those who did not have kids or their kids were still babies and weren't old enough to warrant severe punishments. It seems that most people on here are pretty experencied and have come to the conclusion that you do whatever is effective.

I believe in spanking and grounding. It's how I was raised and it worked in my house.

My son is terrified of Band-aids! It is to the extent that when I enrolled him in preschool, that little section on the forms that says "anything else we should know about your child?" yeah I had to put that my child is deathly afraid of BANDAIDS! His teacher actually asked me if I was serious. I don't even know why, but from the time he was tiny, he would freak out. I don't even keep them in the house because if he even sees them he will panic

LOL...just out of curiosity...how close to his "skin color" are those band aids?

That's so funny. My daughter is afraid of Bandaids too. She literally screams like I'm trying to kill her if I even mention that we should put a bandaid on something. She just doesn't have a trusting nature. I have NEVER done anything to hurt her in her whole life, but she is convinced I am trying to just cause her more pain with those evil bandaids. And, Paulj, it doesn't matter what color they are. Dora the Explorer, Loony Toons, whatever, she ain't havin it.

4strong, just out of curiosity, is your child also scared of mascotts? You know those people dressed up in animal suits at festivals?

I have tried every bandaid known to man! EVERY SINGLE ONE! When he had his tonsils out we had to meet with the nurse a couple days ahead of time. Well, she explained everything to him, even the Dr. taking him back and mommy can't go with you, and he was totaly fine, didn't care at all. Then she mentions that when he comes back to mommy he will have a "really cool bandaid" on his arm (from the IV) that was it, he ran out the room and there was no catchin him. to this day he can't walk past the interview room without reliving the experience. There is no logical explanation he is just terrified. Doesn't even like the nurse to put one on Bubba or Sissy after they get shots.

LOL..I was JUST Gonna suggest that! you stole my thunder!

I've hear them called:
Kid covers
Dent stickers
Kid tatoos
Skin Savers

and on and on...but make sure you dont try them with ones they've already seen...LOL..Good Luck.

I tried the tattoo thing. They have ones that look just like 'em. Told him he could have a cool tattoo like mommy, cause he likes mine. But no, "THAT'S A BANDAID MOMMY!!" so yeah, there's no hope. And yes he is terrified of mascotts!! He won't go anywhere near chucky cheese,according to him, the mouse wanted to eat him. And going to the state fair can be traumatizing because they have them walking all over!

My goofy kids want bandaids for everything so I now offer them some of the liquid stuff that stings a little if I don't thing they really need one. They now decline.

With my older boys I told them if it aint bleeding or broke I didn't need to hear about it and if they wanted their ouies kissed they could do it them selfs, I did not want sissy boys. Once one of them fell over and landed on his hands, got up kissed both hands and kept on running. Think I should tell his wife?

I also use spanking when needed, but have told my 9y0 daughter that obedience is showing me love, with my 5yo daughter I tell her that she is hurting my feelings when she disobeys, I am still working on the 5yo. My three oldest could probably spank me.

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Originally posted by 4strong:
I tried the tattoo thing. They have ones that look just like 'em. Told him he could have a cool tattoo like mommy, cause he likes mine. But no, "THAT'S A BANDAID MOMMY!!" so yeah, there's no hope. And yes he is terrified of mascotts!! He won't go anywhere near chucky cheese,according to him, the mouse wanted to eat him. And going to the state fair can be traumatizing because they have them walking all over!

I think your son and my daughter are kindred spirits. We once went to a festival in Winnipeg called Folklorama. They have a mascott called the Folklorama Llama-basically a guy dressed up in a llama outfit. (they have mascotts for everything in Winnipeg) Anyway, any time the llama came any where near us it was like something out of a horror movie-screaming, panic, and trying to crawl ontop of my head. For months after that, she asked me every time we went somewhere if there were going to be llamas there. And pretty much the same reaction to any mascott. I actually had to list it on the form as one of her "fears" when I registered her for preschool. Again, I have never done anything to make her mistrust me, but she just doesn't believe me that they wont hurt her.

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I think your son and my daughter are kindred spirits.

I think your right! I don't know where my little guy gets his weird little quirks, but they are there! My other two could care less, nothing scares them!