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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
A little background on myself: I was baptised(SP?) catholic and raised until I was 7 that way, then went to lutheran church until I was 12 and my parents didn't send us anymore. (Nope, they didn't go with us, we went with familly).
Anyway, my daughter is 2 and I have been feeling the pressure from family to take her to church. My mom took her for a while and that was fine. I do believe in "god" so to speak but I'm against so many of the teachings of being catholic. I am a recovering catholic. (bad joke I know). but anyway, I was wondering if anyone could shed any light on attending church and not being a hypocrit(sp?). I have a hard time discussing religion with anyone because it's a subject that is personal but I wanted to get your insight on this issue. I want my daughter to be exposed to religion so she can make her own choices and figure out what she "believes" later in life. The more I think about this, I wouldn't mind going to church where people have the same beliefs that I do, and I know that there will always be some things that I will have differences with but I need some help on this. I dont know where to start. |
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Board Beacon Parent |
Would you consider a nondenominational community church?
If you want you can PM me and I can tell you about my thoughts about doctrine and church ritual. I go to a Southern Baptist church but I don't go along with all that they do, I have also been in churches of other baptist conventions, and have served on church boards. |
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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
Dale, I will try to talk to you tonight online on myspace IM if you are available, and If I dont pass out from exhaustion. I am lost in some ways religious/spiritually. I used to be so set on it and now I'm not so sure. I dont know if this is normal or not.
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" "Forum Board? No- KeyBoard! |
I have attended Lutheran, Baptist, Methodist, Christian...who knows how many my folks took us too!! They held the Christian beliefs but did not hold a denomination. We "church surfed" when the church moved outside of what they held to be true and would find another.
I really enjoy a church here called The Vineyard. It's a little modern as they communicate through music, dramatization, as well as sermons. The thing I like best is that they relate today's world to yesterday's word. Anyhow...I've been looking for a new church closer to home and haven't found one I like at all. I'm headed back down to the Vineyard with the kids to rebuild my sense of community. I hope you are able to find some place that will allow you to stretch your mind and your faith. That is what the Vineyard did for me. Oh...you can read up on Vineyard churches all across the 50 states online..just in case you want something else to think about checking out.    "Hope" is the thing with feathers- That perches in the soul- And sings the tune without words- and never stops-at all... Emily Dickinson |
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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
I have made arrangements for Kai and I to attend catholic mass on Saturday night. I am going to discuss some things with the pastor, or whatever he's called and then see if it's what I want to do. I need to do something . . . I have this empty feeling and I know part of it is my religious efforts. However, Kai's daycare is christian based. Which is good I guess.
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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
I think that's an AWESOME idea!! Good job, Mom!   I'm a man of many mysteries and sides....SO many I'm practically round!! |
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"nuninuninooo  " At A loss for Words - NOT! |
I also hopped from one denomination to another. We were once Catholic, then we became Southern Baptists -- it was here where I grew active. But I also explored other denominations like Presbyterian, Methodist, and non-denomination churches. Since these are all under Christianity they all agree on the major teachings about God and His plan for mankind. The differences are just in the traditions and the way they worship (some are very traditional and conservative, others are more contemporary). I suggest you just explore which church you feel comfortable in -- and where you think you and Kai will grow spiritually and find friends who can support you. God bless on your search!
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
I know what you mean...I felt like that for years and I don't "belong" to a church, but I do pray, I believe in miracles. To be honest there are very few churches I have found that I felt good in. But one if ever you should visit if you ever have the chance to come to canada is in Montreal. You can see pictures of it on the net, and it is absolutely beautiful to see. You can google St-Joseph Oratory. My uncle when he was alive used to send troubled youths there for spiritual healing. If you do google the Oratory, there is alot of interesting information on it, alot of miracles were performed in that oratory and it is absolutely breathtaking. The story behind who built it is very inspirational, and everytime I get discourage I think of Brother Andre's obstacles when he had it built and it gives me a sense of peace. You would have to click on the english version of it of course because the main website is in French. It literally takes a full day to visit the church and the thousands of candles in there are magnificent. And when your in the Oratory, wow, it just is breathtaking.   Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
I went to borders today and bought a catholic reference book. I dont have a problem with any one religion, but I dont believe that if you dont agree with all the teachings that you should be thrown out or whatever. Does that make sense? While I remember some of the catholic teachings I had, I dont believe in living my life "as they dictate" in some ways. I dont know if this causes a problem but I do believe in God, I do pray and I believe in lots of other things. I have also gotten out my parents bible from when they got married in 1979 or somewhere. It has me as the only child listed. I think I am going to fill in my siblings and Kai.
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
Well smshybug, oftentimes in church one will come across the teachings of pagans as opposed to Jesus's teachings. I am a Catholic, but not a raving practicing Catholic and no offence to anyone but having been raised in that religion they are still backwards on some of the issues. This is why I like the Oratory...people from many different religions and backgrounds are ONE there. It is quite something...
And no you should not be thrown out...my uncle would have loved to visit a church that threatens to throw people out for such reasons. My uncle believed in the word of God and would go to great lengths to correct churches that misguide or mislead people like that and he would speak tongues to throw them off a bit to see how well they know what they are doing. Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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"nuninuninooo " At A loss for Words - NOT! |
I think that the purpose of religion is to ultimately guide us into relating with God and relating with others. I look at church teachings and rituals simply as guides -- it's like I'm in school studying grammar or math. When I'm out of school, then I can fully utilize what I have learned in school. I don't use all of the lessons I learned in school, because it depends on the kind of profession I choose for myself. I guess it's the same with religion -- you don't get to practice all the teachings because it really depends on the kind of life you choose for yourself.
So I dont think it's wrong to reject some of the teachings. The church is just an avenue that leads towards God... ultimately, what really matters is our relationship with God, not the church we attended or the teachings we believed. |
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SFV JUNKIE!!! |
That's what I was thinking. I think God mostly cares about the relationship you have with him. I am going to call the church tomorrow to talk to someone about myself and Kai re-entering the church if we decide to. We'll see how that goes. I will definately keep you all posted. I just need to fill this void and i think this is part of it.
Thank you all for your love and support. Sarah |
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On the Board |
A Bible teaching church is the way to go. I was also raised Catholic, and to be honest when I started actually reading the bible myself I saw so many things that weren't true that the Catholic Church taught me to believe. When I would ask the Preist about it they would tell me that they were the only ones who were supposed to read and teach the bible. Which is ****! Anyway, I go to a non-denominational church and they teach the bible. I know this is a sensitive issue for you, but I have to say that the only way to know the truth is reading the bible on your own, and only going to a bible teaching church, and getting involved with maybe a womens bible study. It would be great for you to meet other women to fellowship with, hey if you want you can talk to me too.... seems like we have some things in common, and maybe I can help you get some clarity on your spiritual questions?   Psalm 73:25 "Whom have I in Heaven but YOU? And Earth has Nothing I desire besides YOU." |
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Lively & Zealous Parent |
I won't go back to practicing my ex religion, it was toooo dogmatic, a recovering pentecostal I am. Today I find myself on a spiritual journey with God.
I nurture my spirit by praying, meditating and reading spiritual literature. I got to buy myself a bible. I had visited other churches/religions but it wasn't for me. I did find a church I felt welcomed in and also felt good about but the only thing is it's not located in town. |
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Lively & Zealous Parent |
I can relate to how you are feeling. I was raised Catholic, but am now a pagan. Jewel's dad is Baptist. I want Jewel to choose a religion that suits her when she is older so I don't want to push any specific belief system. I send her to a Catholic preschool. They do have religion class, but it is all very basic. They even send home a copy of the weekly cirriculum. So far, i've been very pleased with the way they are teaching her about god. It is basic Christianity..not the "out there" concepts of Catholisism (don't mean to offend anyone. I just don't agree with many of the Church's practices). What she is learning will at least give me a starting point with her. I will, when she is older, explain to her what mommy believes as well. She can choose if she wants to practice with me. I believe Religion is an adult choice and only basic concepts are necessary for a child.
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