alone no more...

Well I am not an expert on this topic but here is what I think I believe.


Ask and you shall receive.

When you said that you were afraid to ask, maybe see if the reason your afraid to ask is because you do not feel worthy to receive. You are worthy to receive.

I also believe that just as someone said on the forum as God being our parent, letting us chose and then being consequenced according...

Everything that is happening to us in our lives is the result of choices. I really beleive that.

For ex: on Friday I got threated by a guy at work. He was my boss and two months ago he was asked to step down from his manegerial role to take on the sales position and the salesman that was doing the job was promoted to manager. I know my ex boss has alot of insecurities and stree. WHen he is insecure and stressed however, he is verbally and psychologically abusive, not just to me but others as well. Except in my case he threatened me as a result of me setting my boundaries. His reply was "you better watch it".
Now all weekend I was thinking what did I do to deserve this. Was it in my actions, my words etc..I was thinking to myself, strangely enough that perhaps I had attracted this into my life. Keep in mind that another man had threatened me during a personal conversation "nothing to do with work", he was upset that I sold my furniture to someone else. At the time he said his wife changed her mind, and I had 2 weeks left to get rid of it, so I proceeded but before I did I asked him again to make sure. Anyway when he changed his mind to take it the furniture was gone, we got into an argument and he threatened my car. Sure enough within a month my car was vandalized at 6a.m just as I was getting up.

Why is God putting me through this? WHy all the chaos and why am I always surrounded by insecure jealous freaks who don't liek women in the workplace.

God doesn't want you to suffer. It is the opposite. He wants you to be happy and have all your desires fulfilled. But I chose that job because I felt insecure about my abilities and figured I couldn't get anything else. So the lesson in this is to have faith in what you want in your life and make choices accordingly.

I believe sometimes God has to bring us through things to remind us to rely on him. I know I am much more intune with God when I am dealing with something difficult then I am when everything is going good, sad, but true. I also believe that it teaches us something. I remember asking your same question ALL THE TIME when I first got divorced, and it is only now almost 3 years later, that I can look back and see what it has taught me. I like the person that I am now, way more then the person I was before. I am so much more independent and have so much more faith in myself then I ever did when I was married. I too love the saying "if God brings you to it, he will bring you through it."

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Originally posted by 4strong:
I believe sometimes God has to bring us through things to remind us to rely on him. I know I am much more intune with God when I am dealing with something difficult then I am when everything is going good, sad, but true. I also believe that it teaches us something. ....."

::takes a deep breath::

In my former life, I once preached a sermon on this very subject....unfortunately, it's very difficult to see the logic or wisdom of a given situation, while youre right smack dab in the middle of it. MOST of the time, it makes so much sense later.

Part of the whole life "process" is learning, step by step, to trust that God actually "KNOWS" what he's doing.

Some of us never get there....but that isnt for a lack of God giving us the opportunity.

I've been through ****....and can honestly say, I appreciate every bit of it. Mayb not like it...but appreciate it.

Tessmit,

Thank you so much.

I made a choice today that I wasn't going to entertain them by listening. When I was watching everyone today at work seeing how unhappy and dissatisfied they were at their work, I realized how wrong it was for me to let this go. And you are right. That is exactly what I have been doing is listening to them, and as long as they have someone listening, I will keep hearing the same stuff.

So I decided today that this time around I was going to stand up to this in a written letter to HR since the boss did absolutely nothing about this.

I even bought a voice recorder today ...hehehe lots of fun.

At least by voicing my opinions on this, they will not be supported by anyone, and if it shoudl slap me in teh face than at least I can say that I stood up for something I value and that is respect and human decency in teh workplace for everyone.

Well it turned out to be very productive.. I had brought it forth in a very proactive way. Management agreed with me and instead of consequencing them for their actions they will be bringing forth seminars on dealing with stress in the workplace in appropriate ways. They thought it was a great suggestion and it will soon be implemented. As it turns out soeone was already aware of the issue and taking care of things but had not thought of doing what I had suggested. So it sounds like it will all turn out okay. In the meantime I was offered to take on memberships in the field and start promoting courses in the industry, which is kind of a nice addition to what I do.

Everyone gave you some excellent advice here! My life seems to be a huge debacle as well. Nothing ever seems to go right for me, BUT when something wonderful DOES happen I appreciate it more than the average person. That one great moment in the midst of chaos drives me to do good for others. I've concluded this must be my life path and i've learned to embrace it.

There is a great book to answer your question:
The Problem of Pain by C.S. Lewis.

I find it helps me to turn it around. I.e. if something bad has happened in my life, I think of people who are so much worse off than me and thank god for the blessings in my life.