I am 22 about to turn 23 I have a 6 month old boy. Ok here is a little back round info I droped out of school when I was 17 but I always had a job making some kind of money to call my own. But I haven't had a job in over a year.

I got my GED the early part of this year and now I'm trying to go back to school to get a BA in BIS. My mother told me that she would take care of my son so I can go back to school. But we got into a fight about my sons father and now she wants to throw us out on the streets. So I said ok but will she still take care of him while I attend school she tell me only if I pay her. And she knows I don't have much money but yet does she care? NO!! So now I might not be able to attend school to better myself and be able to provide more for my son.

Me and my sons father have been together for a year and 6 months. We have a great relationship but he has not been able to hold down a job since we been together. My mom does not like him and at first it really did not matter. But the stress of it all is really getting to me. While I was pregnat you could have really seen how bad the stress really was becaues I could not keep any weight on me and my son came out only being 5 pounds and 15 ounces. Now the most frustration part is that I think that I might be having a nother one. Should I leave him or keep him in our lives?

And I trying to do everything I can to take care of my son. And his father eventhough he can not provide financial help, he helps with the little day to day things. But I need more. And I need to get all this stress out of my life so what should I do?

Did you say you�re pregnant again from the same guy and you don�t know if you should get an abortion, or did I get that wrong ?
If you want my opinion, you must talk to your mother, and expect a huge fight, but eventually things will settle down. Fact is, you did screw up big time, didn�t you, so, whatever, you must get through this now, it doesn�t help.
Still, my advice is, stick with your Mom, she has offered to help you, and I am sure all she�s waiting for is a sign that you�re coming around. Well, a new pregnancy won�t exactly help, but she won�t throw you on the street if you�re pregnant. You need her support to make this decision. Please don�t make that decision alone.
Ask her for help. Mothers usually don�t refuse to help, if you�re really prepared to discuss things like adults.

Maybe I understood all this wrong, please excuse me if that is the case

Hello! First thing is your boyfriend helping the situation or hurting it. You have one child to raise and possibly another on the way, you dont also need a "grown" child to raise. Ok im sorry about that but guys need to take care of their respondsibility. As far as going back to school have you applied on FAFSA (grants, loans, ect) they will help you with everything you need (housing, food, childcare, transportation to and from school, and just the basics of life) then there is public housing, section 8 (look up HUD), and after you get your own house food stamps, TANF, WIC, family planning. Theres probably more but that is all I have found so far. And about your guy again if you know deep down inside hes not the one just break up. It will be easier now before the kid(s) really know whats going on. And please start taking birth control before you get your self in a big mess. They offer it free at a family planning center. Sorry if I was too blunt but if hes not helping you or at least trying to help why do you need him....find a guy that can help you. And why does you mother not like him she must have a reason?
Kim
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I read all the post and have not been online in a bit, but this one gave me a serious kick...

To better yourself, is letting go of some things in your life which are holding you back. First start with yourself...getting pregnant again, right now, wasn't a smart thing to do, especially with you wanting to further your education, but I'm not putting you down, yet uplifting you...clear up a few things that you're personally dealing with in you...If I'm correct...you've known this guy 3 months in total...minus you getting pregnant.....The baby is 6 months and you've been with him 1 yr - 6 months....Sounds like y'all were still in the honeymoon stage when you conceived your baby...Once that happens, the primary focus is taking care of the child you're carrying, and you'll definitely find it very stressful trying to get to know the father of your child at that point....Get to know who you are inside...Be the best parent you can for your baby...That man is going to SINK OR SWIM...you feel me...? Better your life for you and your's. I'm not saying down the road that he might not get his life together, but right now, you have to live for you...Education depletes poverty, amongst other things....


Secondly, you'll see that your mother will have your back when the entire world has turned on you. Heal your relationship with your mother...that is essential. It ain't about who's right or kissing butt. You need your mother's help. Yeah, there might be some fussing here and there, but this is something you need to help you right now... Hold your tongue and listen, yet be firm in what you believe, minus bringing up your child's father....Y'all don't need that argument right now...

Trust God, cleanse your heart, and ask for forgiveness in all things....

You will get through this...Good luck to you....

You have to consider what kind of guy you're with. If he has a child to support, he should be more responsible about keeping a job. Even if he's lost employment through no fault of his own (lay off, etc), he should take ANY job in the interim to support his baby!