i'm writing an essay on single mothers.. i'm kind of stuck. in one of my main points i stated that single mothers are over protective. now i'm stuck... are single mothers over protective? and... are single mothers very supportive? i'm soo confused.. i can't find an example anywhere... and if u dont mind.. i'd like to use your experiences... please.. i need help...

i think any parent is protective over their children, but in my experience as a single mother i am protective of my son when i am in a new relationship. i have being seeing someone for the past two years, he is a great person we get along really well and he likes my son. the thing is i don't want my son to get close to someone and for that person to leave his life like his father did. I will distance my partner from my son until i am 100% sure that my partner is 'the one'.

Every parent is protective but i think that single parents protect their children from getting emotionally hurt alot more than a two parent family.

I hope this helps

Good luck with the paper

Hi,
Can I include something as a single daddy of 3 girls ?

Iam very,very protective of my girls.Iam probably a little overprotective.They don't speak to anyone unless I know who it is.Especially males.I don't trust anyone around them unless I know who it is.
It is going to be hard for me to start any form of relationship because my kids come first every time and a lady is just going to have to accept this fact.I know what my kids are doing 24 hours a day and who they are with.

What course work are you doing as Iam currently doing an essay about Gender and Sexuality for University.

Feel free to PM me if you need any more details.


Best wishes on your studies,

Mark

I�m not a native english speaker, so I might be unclear about the definition of �protective�. (so, pardon me for possible misunderstandings).
I find the subject interesting though.
I looked up �to protect� in the dictionary and it says : �to cover or shield from injury or danger�.

Regarding physical injury: I believe it might seem that way. A single parent is always watching his/her kid(s) himself, since there is no one else to do the job (or it�s too expensive). So they might not be able to concentrate fully on an adult conversation at the same time, for example, or they might just not be able to go out at night because there is no one to watch the child. And some people will say they are over protective.

Regarding emotional danger: in principle,no. But usually single parents have gone through a lot of emotional stress before, which might be the reason they want to keep their kids away from more of it. But that could apply to a �normal� family as well.

I don�t think single parents are more protective.

If a parent is protective of his child, it�s just the way she/he educates his child, it�s her/his nature. It has nothing to do with his status in life (= being a single parent).

Now, I do believe single parents think more about their kids, and how to educate them right. I for example try actively to integrate my son into society. I try to teach him social behaviour maybe more consciently than 2-person parents might do, because he won�t �automatically� be integrated into society, since his mother is mostly rejected, or at least ignored by society, as a single parent.
I also concentrate more on my child when we�re travelling, or when we�re out shopping or anything else. That is logical, because there is only him and me. For example when we drive long distances and he�s sleeping, I will certainly not stop for a coffee. That might be different if �Daddy� wanted a coffee, then the family would stop anyways (I think). So, yes, in our case the child is probably more �important� than in a bigger family (and that might just as well mean 2 or more kids, and a single parent).

Basically, I believe the status of being a single parents per se has nothing at all to do with being more protective. But your own past, your experiences, certainly have an impact on how much you try to protect your child.

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Originally posted by SLiMLiM03:
[qb]i'm writing an essay on single mothers.. i'm kind of stuck. in one of my main points i stated that single mothers are over protective. now i'm stuck... are single mothers over protective? and... are single mothers very supportive? i'm soo confused.. i can't find an example anywhere... and if u dont mind.. i'd like to use your experiences... please.. i need help...[/qb]

you are writing a paper on how we are over protective. thats your belief but you dont know any reason why? i feel it all comes down to emotional attachment. every situation in here is different but we all are scared not only for ourselves to get hurt again but how thats going to effect our children. thats the biggest protection but i dont really think its seen its more of a personal out look on how we feel. others might think we are like you and say it bcs they know that something went "wrong" for us to be single. any parent is over protective on some level if they really care about there child. most parents ballence it out though. we try to find a middle point. just to read up on some more info. go to the library and get a book called WHERES DADDY. it gives all aspects with single mothers from widow divorce and teens even. hope you write a true honest paper on what this really is like! good luck. hope this was somewhat helpful.

Thank you for your examples... i'm not a parent and this is why i'm seeking help... if it is alright, i'd like to quote you guys as a single mother and a single father because i have to look at both sides of a single parent.. is that alright?
well, i have a writing class and we're just writing on a topic my teacher asked us. altogether, it is very interesting. i was actually inspired by an author in a book called The Comtemporary Reader. She's a single mother... and her main concern is that society thinks single parents or actually mothers are a menace to society... ne way... i hope you guys let me quote you... if not it's ok... i'll try not to plagiarise... thank you again!

Of course you can quote me if you find something useful in here.

oh, and thanks for asking.

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Originally posted by Daniela:
[qb]oh, and thanks for asking.[/qb]

no problem.. and thank you