My son just turned 3 and is very limited in the words he can say. Since he was two i have been concerned but people would tell me how their kids began speaking over nite, but now i am very worried. He is currently seeing a speech therapist that is funded by the state. I graduated from college in december, i have put off finding a job, because this is more important and i would not have time for both. Also like subsidized daycare i had while attending college and the speech therapy funded by the state would be terminated. You cant have both, which is extremely frustrating. Speech therapy is not cheap it costs $100 an hr. It really is frustrating for every1 involved, especially me and my son. He is very brite, he knows what he wants to say he just doesnt know how to say it. He says a few words, what he cant say he'll point to and when he gets really frustrated cause he cannot be understood he'll start to scream hit throw things. Even when he was in daycare the teacher would talk to me about his lashing out cause he cant communicate like other kids his age. Its so discouraging/disheaartening i want so badly to be able to communicate with my son.

Its so irritating and depresses me greatly when people say "Congrads on graduating, whats ur major? have u found a job yet?" I just wanna tell them none of ur business. They r just asking to b nosy and dont understand why I not working yet. I feel i have to explain why every time, so i dont look like a total loser, "my son doesnt speak very well & i need to concentrate on that" & I shouldnt have to explain. And it really makes me feel dumb when people ask me if i am going back for my masters and them they have the nerve to ask me why not? I know its more money career wise, but tutition, stress, sanity, son, wise i am done w/school and never going back! Even if i wanted to i couldnt,when it comes to my 2.2 gpa i am extremly proud of that, i could care less and i a, not bent outta shape at all that i didnt achieve a 3.0.

Lastly, potty training is not going very well, yes i have heard boys take a little longer and it takes longer if they are forced, but with his speech and his still wearing diapers i feel horrible, like i am not doing a very good job as a mom. What am i doing wrong? All of december he would tell me he had to go & he went, 1 & 2, then he just stopped, nothing tramatic happened in his life, i cannot figure what happened, why he stopped. Whenever i ask him, sit him down he just sits on his little toilet and doesnt go. I am totaly open to more suggestions/experiences, thanks

First off,congradulations on graduating.Think of it as the first hurdle you made it over.Secondly,I understand what you're saying about people asking nosy questions.It really bothers me when people ask "What about the father,isn't he around" ,"Does he help you out".Makes you want to scream "No,do you see anybody here but me,mind your own business" but of course I say nothing.
About your son not speaking much,if he speaks any at all,which you said he does,that has to be a good sign.Some kids just are slower at starting things. My mom once told me that if there are other kids around they tend to speak for the younger one.My neices are really close in age,6 and 4, the baby didn't talk much at all when she was little and we were starting to get worried.Every time she would want something the older one would do the talking for her,finally we started making Tara ask for what she wanted in order to get it and now we can't shut the girl up.
I have a son myself,he's 11 now.When he was a baby it was so hard to potty train him.Sometimes he would go to the potty chair, other times he would hide behind a chair with his eyes closed,like if he couldn't see us then we wouldn't be able to see him.He was well into his 3rd year before I got him potty trained.
Just don't give up,maybe he's just slower at picking things up right now ,but when he does there will probably be no stopping him.Everyone said my son would probably be behind the other kids his age because he was slow to potty train and get off the bottle,he's a straight A student who NEVER studies and is pretty mature for his age, :huggies: if I say so myself.
Hang in there and don't let anyone make you feel bad for taking the time you need to get help and to be with your son.I commend you for it.Your son should come first,you got your degree and got through everything else,you'll get through this too.My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sorry, I put the graemlin in the wrong place.
Oh well,a big hug from me to you.
:huggies:

Hello asayo

My son is turning 6 yrs old tomorrow and my son was EXACTLY the same way. From the time dylan was a young toddler i could tell that his language was definitely lacking and he would do everything from banging his head to trying to isolate himself b/c he couldn't communicate what he wanted to say to anyone, and it made things impossible in preschool and everyday life. I spent his entire preschool schedule at his school with him b/c the frustration, embarassment, and the rest was so much for the lil' guy and i had a feeling the teacher was not being as delicate and understanding re: the situation as she could've been. I would cry every night b/c i felt helpless, guilty, and ashamed thinking he was this way b/c i didn't speak to him enough, but i knew that was not true and i was just beating myself up...so don't do that. I did the same as u and researched for gov't programs and immediately had my son tested by a therapist and found lots of support.

I cut his preschool hrs down from 5 days a wk to 3 days and we attended speech therapy 2x's per wk intensively. I found a way to use the tools taught by the therapists in everyday situations so that my son would not feel like a freak and actually liked the speech therapy training. Now he is one of the top kinder achievers at his entire school, and is counting, writing, and problem solving in ways I never thought would be possible, when a yr ago he couldn't even pronounce or spell his own name. He is still is in speech therapy learning to discipline his tongue to complete words with much more complex combinations of sounds, but i can understand him very well.

Don't give up honey...i know it's hard and it's so heart wrenching when u know your child can't find the words. Find professionals that can teach u some tools that u can taper to a style that's easiest for your child to learn. I hope u have a family support system that can help make this easier, b/c i didn't and it can make a big difference. You sound like a loving and caring mother and your career will start soon enough...but you're right to make sure u handle this first..negative people should b ignored. Find a way to make it fun...and i guarantee u it will get better. One day at a time. If u ever need to de-stress or are having a rough day...come here. We'll listen. :huggies:

Hi there...I am a simgle mom and a teacher. The latter is significant because most of the kids I teach (including my own) are kids who are independent thinkers who do pretty much what they want to do WHENEVER they want to do it.
gam
The SPECIAL kids are really very special. Their needs are not easy to meet but they are easy to meet in person. I never foget my special needs kids.
Gotta go..my own love is calling for mommy,,,,
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yogamom

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Originally posted by yogamom:
[qb] Hi there...I am a simgle mom and a teacher. The latter is significant because most of the kids I teach (including my own) are kids who are independent thinkers who do pretty much what they want to do WHENEVER they want to do it.
gam
The SPECIAL kids are really very special. Their needs are not easy to meet but they are easy to meet in person. I never foget my special needs kids.
Gotta go..my own love is calling for mommy,,,,
..

yogamom [/qb]

Okay i hope that your son is doing loads better since this post. I would like to add a few things because i am noticing that people are not posting on here as much. I however just found this website and i am amazed that there are other moms out there justlike me.
My son who just turned 5 didn't talk much till he was about 3 1/2 and didn't fully potty train till he was 4 1/2 we still have problems getting him to use the poty ( we find poppie outside in the yard) the joys of being a mom LOL. Anyways he was diagnosed with a mild form of autism. He went into a special ed class and speech therapy and he will continue to a special school. but i am pleased to say he talks well there are still some things i don't understand but we are getting there. The only advice i have for other parents who are going through the same thing is patience... you need lots of patience and don't stop just cause one person says oh if i was his mother or i would do this or there is nothing wrong with him he is just a boy. Trust your instincts and keep being persistant. It will pay off iin the end. Imagine how hard it must be for the child if it is that hard for us. If you need to talk email me. i am always around. Hope i hlped/