My son who is 8yrso hates daycare so much. I thought it was just having to be a daycare so much. He is there before and after school and all summer. Unfortantly he is at daycare more than he is home. I have noticed that he really complains more than the average I hate going crap.

Anyways he hates going but my mom works nights and there are not many of my friends that either don't work or don't want the obligation of watching my son M - F 8:00 am to 5:00pm. I totally undrstand that as well.

I've become frustrated w/the daycare myself. I do get subdise that does help w/payment of the daycare but I also have to pickup some cost as well and on top of that I have already forked over $40 plus in field trip costs. I pay only b/c I won't let my son not go on the trips. I just feel that the d/c can only ask so much money from the parents. To top it off the trips have been so disorganized lately that the kids don't have any fun.

Just on friday my son fell off the tire swing and hit his head hard enough so that there was a burse and scrap on his forehead. Do you think any of the teachers told me? NO! He came home and when I asked about the bruse he finally told me what happend. This had happened once before at the same day care. He hit his head and ended up w/a consucion that I spend 2hrs in the ER for. I screamed at the director and her response was oh maybe they were busy. PLEASE! There are a lot of other things that have been happening. My son came home throwing up and could not make it to daycare the next day. Reason b/c he was out in the hot sun all day long and no sunscreen. Came home burnt! To me not acceptable b/c he has two bottles of sunscreen w/him at all times. I screamed about that and response was no other kids got sick. I don't about the other kids I care about my kid!

The teachers a yelling at the kids alot lately and have a really crappy additude toward kids and parent. He has been in this daycare for three years and w/in the six months it's been an unpleasent experience.

You ask why don't I pull him out now? I want to but can't. I have to work ft unitl the baby is born in December. He only has to make it until then. I will be at home for a while after so he won't have to go back to daycare. I feel like a horibble mom but I have not choice and its hard to find a d/c at such short notice and I'm only keeping him in for the next five months.

Sorry so long but I had to vent and get my angry out some how. No one at the daycare will listen to me. I'm just a other annoying mommy now. They are just telling me what I want to hear to shut me up (or atleast that's how I feel toward them some days.)

Any suggestions or just a listening ear is nice too.

Thanks.

SPIRIT

ouch. I have to commend you for your self control. If that every happened to one of my babies, so help me GOD!

Anyway, maybe there are other daycare choices. Five months is a long time, in my opinion. Specially if he's already started complaining.
Maybe, your friends/mom can help look for a d/c if ur too busy.

There could be a secret reason why he doesnt want to go. My nephew once had this problem, we found out other children were picking on him. He never told his parents but, he told me about it. He did something that embarrassed him, and they wouldnt stop teasing him. They still took him to a different d/c. Now, he has new friends and he is fine.


Good luck!

You need to report that day care center b/c they are suppose to document all injuries to the children while in there care. I do agree with jeff about some reason as to why he hates daycare so much. My daughter was the same way at her previous day care and I later found out why. But she is now in a new daycare and is loving it.

Good Luck

Your both right. I have a feeling there is a sercert reason that my son does not like the d/c but unfortantly he does not open up very well to anyone. I've had my mom asking him and he has said that it's boring. I think there is more - mommy's intution.

I do let him atleast get a break once or twice during the week from d/c. There are a few times a week that friends for my mom are able to take him.

I still upset w/the d/c and once school starts for him at the end of August he only has to be there two hours out of the day. He will go to school early enough so that I can drop him off right at school. That will be a relif for him.

Thanks for the advice. He got yesterday off from d/c. So there was a break. I guess I'm just doing the best I can for right now.

SPIRIT

I suggest you report the daycare to whatever investigatory agency is responsible for them.
My daughter loves her daycare. They are aware of any special needs that any child may have as well, (such as sunscreen).
She hit her head very hard once too, but I was notified immediately.
If your son seems neglected there, he probably is. The sooner you report these incidents, the better. You may be asked to document your claims, so have your doctors reports handy.
By doing this you may be preventing future injury to your son or someone elses innocent child.

Have the staff confirmed your son's injuries? Do you think maybe he's being bullied by other kids and is too embarrassed or scared to tell you? Often kids refuse to go to school (to such degree) when they're being picked on. Maybe the staff aren't doing enough to help rememdy that, being that they're 'so busy' .. please. Don't ask your son directly if he's being bullied. Ask in a round-about way .. that is of course, if the teachers haven't specifically confirmed his injuries .. or perhaps they're not being honest themselves.

I think it is time for you to find another daycare center. I am having some of the same dilemas, the only difference is that I am working there and so I need to find a center with an opening for my son as well as for me. At my job we are over worked and understaffed. I have a child who bites in my room and I am expected to watch her at all times ( I am alone in the room with seven toddlers and sometimes more) while I am changing diapers, planning activities, serving meals, cleaning up the room ect. The changing table is set up so that when I am changing a child my back is to the rest of the room. Therefore it is impossible for me to watch the children every second, and therefore children get bit. And furthermore the center has no policy on biting. It seems like noone at the center has any respect or concern for the children.
People act like I am doing something wrong when I give the children attention and hold them b/c when I am not there the children expect the other staff to hold them and this makes their job harder.
Other teachers act disgusted with me because I do not make my TODDLERS stay on their cots For an hour after they wake up from their nap. I mean in what world should toddlers be expected to lay on their cots for any length of time and do nothing? Does everyone agree with me or am I the one who is out of line? The reason that the children need to stay on their cots for this long is b/c we are expected to break each other leaving one teacher to look after two classrooms for a two hour period of time. This means that we are double the state ratio for toddlers in that period of time. But my director claims that if the children are sleeping they are not counted in the ratio. Are you kidding me?
Oh and I am only making ten dollars an hour as a lead classroom teacher and I pay three dollars an hour for child care with my discount. I could make more working at McDonalds and probalby have better working conditions.
I come in every day with a good attitude and do my best to make sure that the children are getting love and attention and stimulating activites, but given the working conditions, children still get hurt, bit and sometimes do not get their basic needs met. It hurts me to see these things going on and it hurts me very much to wittness the way that the other teachers are treating the children. Many days I go home and cry.
Sorry this was long and kind of off topic, but I just needed to get it off my chest.
My point is that it sounds like some of these same things are probably taking place at your child's day care and you definatly need to find better child care as do I. I have been looking for quite some time now and I am having a hard time finding anything but as soon as I do I am out of there and I may even call the state and report them for some of the things that take place there.

Form an insider, some questions that you might want to ask when looking for a new child care center are:
How closely do you follow state ratios and health regulations? Do you make exceptions to these rules? If so in what situations would exceptions be made?
What kind of policies do you have regarding discipline?
Are children required to stay on their cots after nap time or can they get up and do a quiet activity?
Do you have a camera set up so that teachers can be watched through out the day?
If vhildren are behaving inappropriatly towards the children what type policies do you have in dealing with them?
I hope this was helpful. Thanks for listening.

Sorry, I meant to say if teachers are behaving innappropriatly towards the children LOL! Good luck and I feel for you.