I am 19 and pregnant. Right now I am living with my mom and her boyfriend. They want a child of there own, and i hate to sound unthankfull for all the help they are giving me but i am afraid my mother will try and raise the child as her own. I lived with my ex-boyfriend before I became pregnant and would still live with him but certain curcumstances dont allow for that. I have a job and take care of myself and my ex also helps with money. As soon as I am able to find a roomate I plan on moving out again. How do I keep my mom from trying to turn this into her kid while I live with her. She already has planed to do a bunch of first things like taking the baby to its first apointment or giving the baby its first stocking. These are all things I want to and can afford to do. She even mentioned how she is lactating because I am pregnant and wants me to think about both of us breastfeeding MY CHILD. I love my mom but she is going to far.

WOW! Well I think the first thing you need to do is sit her down and attempt to talk to her. Be straight forward and completely honest with how you feel. Tell her that while you do want her to be involved you want to be the one raising this child. Tell her that you already feel that she is going to far and you want to set the boundarise now and and figure things out before the baby comes. If that doesn't work than you'll have to try another approach. You'll have to do things like cut her out of decisions, don't even talk to her about appointments and things. If she makes an appointment, go ahead and make one of your own and take your child to the one you made, not the one she's made. Do you want to breast feed your child? Talk to her about how both of you breastfeeding could really mess with a kids mind, its not natural. I had my son at 18 and had to deal with that a little from my mom but not so extreme. Hope that helps and keep me informed. Like I said, try talking first. Hope to hear from you and best of luck. Where in Cali are you located?
Melissa

Goodness....hey does your mom know how funy she is!!!

Seriously, it seems that she is getting carried away carving out her own role within you having a baby, guidance is needed...hey its good practice for you as Jnr will arrive at the over dramatic imaginative stage around about 5yrs old and you will have had ample practice with that stage whilst dealing with your mother.

Just get used to saying ' I appreciate your concern but.....' she will soon get the picture...after all you are still her baby in her mind ( yep, as a mother of an 18yr old lad, I can tell you all he's still my baby), once Jnr arrives she will wake up and come to terms that you are all grown up and she needs to back off.

Do you have any siblings that you could divert her attentions to?