I met a white female in nov. of 2001 and we became sexual partners, butt buddies, whatever. But nothing more. We had many many encounters, most amounting to 2-5 Hours. In Jan. of 2002, she informed me that she was pregnant. At age 18, I was not ready for such a thing. I hinted that she get an abortion, without directly saying or advocating it because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. She made it clear that she was definitly keeping the baby. Sexual attractions aside, I really disliked the girl. She was so ditzy, shallow and annoying. I put these feelings aside and begrudgingly accepted my impending resposibilities as a father. My beautiful baby girl was born on September 11, 2002. I loved and cherished her. I spent and spent on her,and always was holding and loving her. After about 2 months, her skin tone began to darken while her hair became more "coarse". The problem lies here: I'm white! I held off saying anything for a week to make sure. Before I had the chance to mention the changes taking place in "my baby girl", her mother told me she didn't think I was the father. She said she had slept with another guy only once during our 3 months of "relations" and that the encounter was brief, amounting to less than two minutes. As I mentioned earlier, we had many "sessions" of two or more hours. She said she never even considered the other guy being the father, due to the total number of sessions and time differential of those sessions. I didn't believe her until I met the guy who didn't believe it was his. He reiterated her words, saying "It can't be mine. I was only with her for a minute." He was in total shock. He hadn't seen her in a year. I really liked the baby, but couldn't stand to be around the mother, who insisted I remain in her daughters life because she and her daughter loved me. I politely declined, and refused to accept money for my purchases I made on baby items, figuring it would hurt her ability to provide for her daughter. It really sucks not seeing her(the duaghter) because I was attached. Isn't this a messed up story? Shouldn't I be happy that I don't have a kid that I never wanted to begin with?

I don't mean at all to judge...because I know how it feels to be a young dad and all. If you loved the baby, you should have stayed with her as her "dad". Being a dad isn't just being the paternal-blood-related-sperm-producing-male...it goes beyond that. I know that your life is probably better now. You shouldn't necessarily be happy because you were attached...you should be feeling sad right now. If you want to visit the baby you can say this to her mother, but let them both know you're visiting as a "friend." Maybe you could be called "Uncle" or something of that sort. Good luck.

I just want to say that you are a good man for willing to stay by the little girls side.
For the first two months were you happy to have a daughter that loved you? Just experiancing something like that must have been really awesome. You showed nothing but love towards her and you know she loves you too. If I were you I would definately keep in touch with her, even be a father figure if the other guy isn't around. I am 18, white and 5 months pregnant with a black guys baby. I just hope he will love our baby as much as you loved that little girl.
God Bless
Amber