I was hoping if people would like to help me write an essay on teenage parenting. i am 18 and have a son myself, but i'd like to add in other's opinions and attitudes on different subjects. here are some questions anyone can answer, you don't have to answer all of them. go into detail, vent, whatever! anything could help! my essay is only for high school, but i thought it'd be fun to do a bit more than just write about bills and stress. thanks!

1- what was it like when you found out you were pregnant?
2- how did your life change after you started letting people know? how did people you knew treat you? your friends?
3- what did the father do?
4- did you decide to live on your own, or live with your parents?
5- how has your life changed since you've taken on your responsibility? what have you delayed, grown up for, what are your new passions? do you sometimes regret what your choice was? (last question not trying to be offensive, just wanting to know how you feel.)
6- anything else you'd like to add...


i hope at least a couple people help me out. this is important to me, i'll send out copies of the finished work when done, if you'd like it. it'll take a couple months to do, as i'm pretty busy. thank you for all who help me!

The first time I got pregnant, I was 18, almost 19. I thought I was going to marry the dad (we were high school sweet hearts). I think that the thought of marrying the dad kept me from getting upset about being pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant for the 2nd time and I wasn't married to this man either, I was really embarrassed. I owned my own home, I had worked through college and gotten my bachelor's degree, I was working as a teacher. All I kept thinking about was that people were probably thinking that I didn't learn my lesson the first time! I didn't marry the first guy, but I did the 2nd. Wrong!!!!! The 2nd guy was the pits and I am almost done with my 1 year separation.

I love both of my children, but I can see how I have matured and grown since my first child was born. I am a different parent now. I am sure it is age and experience!

I wish that my relationship with my first son's dad had worked. I would change that part of my life, but at the same time, I woudln't have my baby either! I know now that I didn't have to marry my husband, and I wish I hadn't! I wish that I could have the children I have now by going through the normal avenues of relationship, marriage, kids. I just skipped the marriage part!

Being a single parent is probably the hardest thing on the planet! When people talk about baggage, single parents have tons! How do you date? How do you remarry? How do you have adult time? YOU DON'T! I don't have all the answers. I don't even have this parenting thing figured out!

Hope this helps!

lets see if I can answer these questions:
1)When I first found out I was pregnant I was scared out of my mind. I didn't know who to tell or if I should tell anyone. I ended up telling my boyfriend and he wanted me to get an abortion which I was against so that made things difficult because I was getting pressured from him and I didn't tell anyone else for six months so I felt very alone most of the time.
2)I lived in Oklahoma at the time and prior to the year I got pregnant I was the president of a Christian club so some of the students judged me harshly (I never "preached" against something I was doing and at the time I wasn't have sex anyway) Some of the teachers were very prejudice towards me because I got pregnant my junior year of highschool and stayed at my school until I graduated. They like to make you think you HAVE to leave and go to the school for pregnant girls but I refused. One teacher actually "suggested" that I drop her class.
3)Like I said initially he wanted me to have an abortion but he got use to the fact that I was having the baby and over time he is being more involved. (It's been two years now)
4)I decided to continue to live with my mom and I still do now so I can go to college.
5)I never regret my choice....although I want more sleep sometimes! =) I had to change what I wanted to do with my life because be an investigater for the FBI is not condusive for having a child at home. The hours are way too long and unstable so now I'm just working at doing something with Forensic Psychology but I'm not sure what yet.
Hope that helps
Melissa

1.When I found out I was pregnant I was 15 I felt so alone. I felt like I had noone to turn to. At first I tried not to think about it. It all felt like a nightmare.
2.After I started to tell people my life completely changed. My parents nolonger trusted me, they were pressuring me to get an abortion. My friends began to drift away from me, and people I had never even met started to look down upon me. It was real hard cause I was always depressed.
3.When I told the father the first thing he said was that he wanted me to get an abortion
cause he wasnt ready to have a baby("he was only 18" he would say.).Than when I told him I wasnt going to do it he told me he would always be there for me. After a while he too left me. We no longer talk he dosent see his daughter.
4.I decided to live with my parents cause obviously I wasn't ready to live on my own. I wanted to finish school.
5. My life has completely changed I can no longer think about myself Its all about my baby. I have a resposibility now. Now not only do I have to finish school for me but for my baby so that she can also have a good life. I don't regret my baby but I do regret some of the choices I made. Like having sex so young. But I couldnt Imagine life without my baby.