I have been with my boyfriend, my sons father, for 2 1/2 years. We live together and I have come to the conclusion that I can't stand being with him. I love him and want to kepe a lcose relationship but we can't work as a cuople. I've talked this over with him and he's upset but what can he do? I am scared, though. If anyone can just kind of talk with me and help me through this, I would greatly appreciate it. Also, if anyone knows anywhere to talk to a free lawyer and/or get financial assistance so I don't have to depend on my mom, I would appreciate that, too.
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Rachael

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Originally posted by funkymonkey:
[qb]I have been with my boyfriend, my sons father, for 2 1/2 years. We live together and I have come to the conclusion that I can't stand being with him. I love him and want to kepe a lcose relationship but we can't work as a cuople. I've talked this over with him and he's upset but what can he do? I am scared, though. If anyone can just kind of talk with me and help me through this, I would greatly appreciate it. Also, if anyone knows anywhere to talk to a free lawyer and/or get financial assistance so I don't have to depend on my mom, I would appreciate that, too.
sweety62803*yahoo.***
Thanks!
Rachael[/qb]

Rachael;

I 100% understand what you are going through because I'm in a rocky situation with my sons biological father as well. If you don't mind me asking what drove you two apart to the point were you cannot stand being with him? If you still want a close relationship with him do you mean as friends or partners? I also recently talked to a lawyer about recieving custody of my son and child support. What you can do is look for a good steady lawyer that you can feel comfortable with and a lawyer who has financial help. Theres a process where you ask for financial help through the office and then you arrange payments with them. After that you will explain your situation to the lawyer and decide with him or her of your decesion. Say if your seeing the lawyer for custody matters and child support, you will sign some papers and its a 10 day process. Once these papers are signed you have custody first mean while until the court date. You will recieve the papers and it will have a court date. Which your boyfriend and yourself will both have to attend to. The judge then will decide on the custody matter and how the childsupport will work. I think now if you get child suppport, they directly take it out of his check and mail it you. I'm not sure though! Make sure this is what you really want to do because its a very big decesion, and it may cause problems between you and him, unless you guys already talked about it. Good luck!

Rachael,

I posted to you in your private member area box.

Shannon

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Originally posted by funkymonkey:
[qb]I have been with my boyfriend, my sons father, for 2 1/2 years. We live together and I have come to the conclusion that I can't stand being with him. I love him and want to kepe a lcose relationship but we can't work as a cuople. I've talked this over with him and he's upset but what can he do? I am scared, though. If anyone can just kind of talk with me and help me through this, I would greatly appreciate it. Also, if anyone knows anywhere to talk to a free lawyer and/or get financial assistance so I don't have to depend on my mom, I would appreciate that, too.
sweety62803*yahoo.***
Thanks!
Rachael[/qb]

I was with my ex for 4 years(my kids father). I wasnt happy in the relationship at all. I was scared about doing by myself thats why I stayed with a little longer but once it got to the point that I never smiled or laughed because I was so unhappy I knew it was time to leave. I had no choice but to come back to moms but I dont have to count on her for money.I went to Department of Children and Families and subized daycare so I can work and one day(not anytime soon)get my own place. Its hard but if your not happy in the relationship the best thing to is leave because kids can pick up on the fact that someone isnt happy. If you want to talk you can email me at mommy31183 at aol