My sons father is lying to me so much I don't know what to believe anymore. I have to go behind him just to check to see if he's really telling the truth. It really blew me when I found out he had been lying to me. He was suppose to have the baby's doctor's appt. all set but it was a lie. He doesn't even have insurance for him. I'm still under my mom's insurance because I'm still in school. What am I to do? I have all these bills piling up and I only have a part-time job. Right now I just want to give up on the father and say bye. But I don't know if that's the right thing because I want my son to have parents that are still together. I never had that so I know how it feels. I don't know what to do.

simone, trust your gut. i left my son's father b/c he was a deadbeat and in and out of jail. my son didn't need that kind of person in his life. my parents were divorced too, but i did the best for my son and now i've got a wonderful boyfriend who loves my son very much. think about it. does your baby need the stress of his parents fighting? any one can be a father but it takes a man to be a daddy. i'd dump this guy and find a man. if not, women are strong and don't be scared to be single.
good luck

I know it's hard. I am all about trying to make things work with my son's father but there are times when I ask myself is it worth it? And if you have to be asking yourself that question the answer is probably no. You do need to do what is in the best interest of your child. I know that it is a hard decision to make, I know that it is a sad and difficult idea of being alone and dealing with that. I go to school full time, work part time, and take care of my son. His dad lives in Oklahoma and I live in California. He helps with money when he can but it's not much. I left Oklahoma and live with my mom now because I knew that it was the best thing for me and my son. There are times when I wish that everything would have worked out but I know in my heart that I still did the right thing. The way I see it, all it takes is the right equipment to be a boy but it takes guts, a brain, and real true love for anyone to be a man. Any guy can be a father, I mean if you think about it....a fourteen year old could be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad. I know that life is hard as it is with a child, life throws so many different balls at us that we have to juggle...but sometimes, there are a few we have to drop in order to hold on to the most precious ones of all. We all have to learn how to juggle, it just takes a lot of practice, time and patience. You'll figure it out soon enough. Until then best of luck and god bless. Keep me informed on how you are doing.
Melissa