i was wondering wat is everyones veiws on telling the father. I didnt want to tell him at fist cause he didnt know i was pregnant i didnt even know.but the more i think about it i wanna tell him. im not sure howll **** react, he has a temper. but today i just found out hes going to prison for 3 yrs 3mnths and 4day. How im a sopose to tell himknow. by time he gets out shes going to be 3. everytime i think about it i cry. i dont know what to do. it sucks. I just want him to be a part of her life. know after 2 mnths of thinking about it. i havent told any of my friends or anything i had a baby. its gettin to the point where i wanna tell everyone that dosnt know already. but about the father thing what should i do

Tell him, just get it out in the open. It isn't going to get easier the more time that passes by so no matter what, it will be easier today than tomorrow!

how am i sopose to tell him in jail, i havo way to contact him.

OK well, then you have your answer. If you cannot contact him in anyway you can't tell him?

Can he not receive mail or visits?

he can but i dont know how 2 find that info out i learned about him being in jail @ 11:30 this morning

maybe you should just go to the jail and ask to see him. They might say no but you should at least try. I got pregnant real young too.

I agree try and find out where he is and try and see him. If you can't then at this time he is not meant to know. I might just be better. You can't hold it against yourself for trying. Just believe in yourself and in your friends. The sooner you tell the happier you will be. I hope everything goes well.

Keep us posted.

If you know what prison he is in you just call the prison and ask when visiting hours will be for him. Different blocks have different visiting days. In some prisons you have to be in the inmates visitors list.

I cant see him, I have to be on a vistor list. Then i wouldnt have a ride anyways. So i guess its not meant for him to now. He wrote me and kinda of scared the **** out of me. I havent wrote him back and i dont think i will. Thanks for the help.