Im 19 and found out I was pregnant when I was 5 months. My ex and I dated for 3 yrs on and off. We completly cut things off right before I found out and surprise, surprise he has another girlfriend already. He knows im prgnant and I try to include him as much as possible to let him know how everything is going with the baby so far but always feel like he doesnt understand that im pregnant with his child...like hes in denial. He still has yet to tell his parents which really bothers me and my family *** well...Im not sure what I should do... try and include him or not...tell his parents dont tell them... im due in jan and dont want them to miss out on anything if they want to be involved...any advice?

Hello and welcome Ms19single,

my experience is, it can them much longer than 9 months until they realize this IS reality, and this reality won't just go away by ignoring it.

If your motivation is to include the future grand parents in your new life, I would go ahead and give him a dead line..after which you will tell them yourself.

After all, all you have to do is come by and visit, and they will understand what happened.

I actually ended up telling the grand parents myself when my son was 1 year old ! But he (the father) was only able to hide it, because we live at the 3 'corners' of the world ! (Europe, America and Australia).

I wish you all the best Ms19, and I hope you can get a lot of support from both involved families (including the father of your child or not including him in the worst case).

Welcome! I'm new here myself. Single mom for a looong time though.

I would think his parents would want to know. They may even be upset the longer you wait. They might want to be involved before the baby is born. Give hime a chance and a time period and then if you have to, tell them yourself.

Unfortunately, he may take a while to get involved. Go for his share of supporting the child, though, whether he's involved or not. Look into all of this before you have the baby, also. Do you understand what it's going to take to be a parent, yet, a single parent? Get all the resources you can, you don't want to be alone or feel alone and helpless. There is always this site for some of your emotional needs and advice.

I guess I pretty much said what Dew said. I wish you the best as well and welcome to mommyhood!

So his parents know..... I feel so much better that they know now. I was expecting a call from him swearing me up and down for telling them but I didnt which is really out of character for him....not sure what will happen next with him but hes not my biggest concern anymore...

GOOD !


He's probably relieved himself. It must be kind of hard to keep an expected baby a secret, even for a father. It must have been a very heavy stone hanging over him all this time, and you have lifted it for him. In any case, this could be one way he could have been seeing it. But you are so right, he should be the least and the last of your worries now.