Hi everyone. I'm new here and I'm a new mom to a three week old little boy, Carter Matthew. I'm seventeen and I never dreamed that I would be a mom at this age. I love every minute of it though (except the no sleep thing). He is a beautiful little boy and I love him so much!

I am learning that it isn't easy and it isn't all fun and games. He already has his first cold, he's sneezing and coughing constantly, I feel so bad because there isn't anything I can do to help him.

It is also kind of hard because I don't have much help. I live with a friend of mine, he has an appartment in his basement and he's renting it to me really cheap. Carter's daddy isn't around. Just another dead beat dad. I'm not expecting to ever hear from him again.

My mom is here to help sometimes but whenever she's over helping me out she dose this thing where she acts like he is hers and it drives me nuts, already! I'm an only child and Carter is her first grandcild so I kind of understand, but at the same time I just want to scream. I know she is trying to help, but I'm Carter's mom, she isn't!

I just have a lot to get off my chest. I'm learning that it is hard to keep old friendships, becuse my kid always comes first. All my friends are going out and partying and everything else and I can't. I don't really have anyone to talk to anymore, everyone has sort of drifted away from me. Thanks for lending your ear (or I guess eyes, whatever).

Oh yeah, I have pictures but I don't know how to put them on here, I **** at technological stuff.

Congratulations on your new little boy. I think lots of Mums do that regardless of your age. It is just her excited with her new grand child and when I had my baby (I was nearly 40!!!) I still found that everyone wanted to tell me how to do it.

Can you have a talk to your Mum about it perhaps say something along the lines that Mum I appreciate what you are doing but instead of taking over perhaps you can just support me in becoming a great Mum like you were? (Flattery works better than a fight!)

Mostly I just wanted to say Hi and we look forward to hearing about that baby!
Aroha

Congratulations on your new baby boy, Carter!

I agree with Zealand, thank your mother for all her support and being a great grandparent but very softly very nicely tell her what you really need is her to help you be a great mom rather than taking over when she comes in. Think about this dear, you are 17, you are still very much her baby and now her baby has a baby. She needs to be carefully and tenderly be told that you are his mom but you welcome any help.

As time goes by you will learn how to take somethings with a grain of salt and other times you needs to speak up and gently remind your mom you are Carter's mom. My daughter is 13 and my mother lives with us. I am very lucky. I do not know how Evie and I would do even half the things we do if mom was not here. I tell her how much I appreciate her almost everyday and when it is rarely necessary I remind my mother that I am Evie's parent.

Cali-

Welcome to the site! It's great being a new moommy but hard at the same time. I was a new mom at 19yrs old and will be a new mommy again at 28yrs! I only have 29days left of go! YEAH!! Cant tell i'm a little excited huh!

I know what it's like to have your mom come in and take over. I too am an only child so my 8yr is her first grandson and grandchild. This baby is suppose to be a girl so it will be her frist grandaughter. Let me tell you she drives me nuts even now b4 the baby is born. Always worring and telling me to be carful and watch the snowy stairs! OMG like I'm not able to be aware of where I'm going! Ok and last night shes like oh we thought(meaning supposly my stepdad and her) that maybe you should come here and stay w/us very soon so that when your in labor we can just grab you and go. She lives 20mins away form the hospital I live 5mins away LOL! Honestly I think it's just her that wants me to come stay earlier. Not that my stepdad would ever say not it's just his attitude is just leave the poor girl alone and she will decied what is best for her at this time. My son on the other hand wants to go and stay w/grandma now. He loves going there and this is very exciting for him. Plus he can spend more time w/his dog that we had to give up b/c we moved to a new apartment.

Moms worry and do tend to take over but know what just let her take over and take care of you and your new baby. It gives you a break even if your right there in the same house. I know I'm staying w/my overbearing mom for a week or two after the baby it born to let her take care of her baby and so I can take better care of my new baby and my 8rys. I know it's hard to let mom take over at times or harp on you about how you take care of or correct your children. I've just learned to tune her out if she gets to be to much. I also know that this is her way of feeling useful. Remember it also gives grandma time to really get to know her new grandson. In the future you will be gald that you son and your mom got time to spend together. I know that I'm glad my son and my mom are so close. My stepdad is very close to my son as well.

I hope this helped a little. Yes moms do try to take over your life and mother even when you are older but sometimes it's easier to just let them.

BTW Congrats on the new baby! :baby: :balloon:

SPIRIT