Hi, I am 18 and 19 weeks pregnant right now. My fiance dumped me 2 weeks after we found out. He said he was feeling trapped and smothered. He was my world and I loved him alot...Since then he has been getting drunk all the time and partying with his friends while I sit at home depressed. I really don't have anyone to talk to who understands what I'm going through, everyone acts like it's not a big deal and I'm just feeling like my world is falling apart...If anyone wants to chat with me or share pregnancy stories please feel free to email me or IM me. Thanks

I know how you feel. I wasn't engaged when I found out I was pregnant but we were talking about it. When I found out the father's first reaction was anger....it lasted for about five seconds and then we sat there and cried together for a long time. To this day he still goes out and parties....we stayed together for awhile. Then he cheated on me and we broke up and tired it again a little while later. But since then he goes out and parties and stuff while I sit at home. I have relocated and now live in a completely different state. I'm 19 and have a 15 month old son. I know that it is hard to be alone. I've done this basically on my own the whole time. And I know how unfair it seems that he's out partying and being with his friends when you are home by yourself feeling alone and lost. Sometimes I still feel like that. There are a few things that I have to keep reminding myself. For instance, I dont' know how old your ex is but if he's close to your age, remember, this is the times when boys more than girls at this age party. It's a social thing and most of them do it. It doesn't excuse the act but it's not like he's the only one. The real big thing here to remember though is that he's probably feeling just as lost and alone as you are. He too does not know what to do with these feelings. He's going to be a father and at a young age and I think that the majority of guys especially at this age really have a hard time excepting that because they want to still be stupid high school/college boys which entails going out and partying and being out until forever not being at home changing diapers and feeding a baby, and now the only way to deal with those thoughts and feelings is to run with them. Drown them in alcohol and friends if you will. When girls become pregnant it's a whole other story. Girls are forced to grow up and take full responsibility. It's happening to them inside their bodies and guys, married, single, young, old, all have problems indentifying with us as women being pregnant. Especially younger guys because we at this age have so much more time to grow and change and learn about ourselves and what we really and truly want. Don't feel alone. Most of us here have been there too. But remember, you must not sit around and be depressed. Your baby feels what you feel and that's not healthy. You are about to have a miracle and the light of your life enter your world. Let that alone make you happy. Yes this may be unexpected but what gift. New life is going to come into yours and bring you a whole new meaning and understanding that nothing else can give you. I stayed in school until I had my son, it was my senior year, left for about six weeks and went right back, while working a part time job. I know go to college full time, work part time and take care of my son on my own...well my family helps some, but it will all work out in the end. Keep your head up and God bless. Keep in touch. Respond or im me. I'm here for you and know exactly how you feel! Best of luck!
Melissa