Hello everyone, i'm 18 and have a daughter who is 10 months old named Alexis. She's got a fever and is all congested so she's been keeping me up at night and early in the morning. I work most after-noons and have to drop her off the babysitter, whom i just met last week. I haven't been out with friends for well over a year and miss it. I am still with her father hes 21, were not planning on getting married anytime soon though. We get to go out at times when his mom watches her but i feel guilty then because i could be spending time with her. I ask her dad to watch her at times so i can so with a friend somewhere and he gets angry saying he thought i wanted to spend time with him and Alexis. I work with him but don't get to really see him since its work he comes over after work but were busy with our daughter and he leaves generally before she goes to bed. I feel so tired and exhausted at times and i let her play in her corral while i rest on the couch or in the corral beside her, I feel guilty as if i should stay awake and play with her since i work at night and sleep in the morning when shes up when she naps its time to do laundry and things. Please someone let me know how you feel, what could make me feel like a better mom?

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Originally posted by lostfallenangel:
[qb]Hello everyone, i'm 18 and have a daughter who is 10 months old named Alexis. She's got a fever and is all congested so she's been keeping me up at night and early in the morning. I work most after-noons and have to drop her off the babysitter, whom i just met last week. I haven't been out with friends for well over a year and miss it. I am still with her father hes 21, were not planning on getting married anytime soon though. We get to go out at times when his mom watches her but i feel guilty then because i could be spending time with her. I ask her dad to watch her at times so i can so with a friend somewhere and he gets angry saying he thought i wanted to spend time with him and Alexis. I work with him but don't get to really see him since its work he comes over after work but were busy with our daughter and he leaves generally before she goes to bed. I feel so tired and exhausted at times and i let her play in her corral while i rest on the couch or in the corral beside her, I feel guilty as if i should stay awake and play with her since i work at night and sleep in the morning when shes up when she naps its time to do laundry and things. Please someone let me know how you feel, what could make me feel like a better mom?[/qb]

Hi we have alot in common. I feel that the FIRST step in becoming a better mom is to ask that question! Congrats! Your on your way. :0 I know it's not that easy, because I have a wonderful crazzy little 2 1/2 year old that I love to death but when I m worn out, have said the f word to. Then I want to kill myself (not literally) I am 19, had Maddy when I was 16, have been married to her father for over a year. I just started working 40 hr weeks, and am EXHAUSTED when I get home. I am not perfect to my daughter, even though I feel that she deserves perfection. Sometimes i forget that she is an innocent little baby, and I try to treat her like an adult. I left town on buisness for 10 days & couldnt take her, and felt so GUILTY over the ways I sometimes treat her. Then, I see parenting in others severly worse than mine. Im making the point that our baby's love us no matter what. we all need more patience. There needs to be more hours in the day, or at least more to sleep. We need to utilize the time we DO have to make it quality time, like w/o a tv. (I need to work on this) I write a journal, and let my daughter know how much I love her and what we did together that day. I grew up w/o a mother, and feel it's important to do this. No matter what, if you are aware that you have room for improvement, you are making the first step towards improving!